by K. Hollow
What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 20
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Boston, United States
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? IT
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Unsure / Questioning
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Heteroflexible with a lot of exceptions
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
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How long ago did this hookup happen? Late 2013
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Handsome guy, same age as me. White, short dark curly hair, slightly stocky build. We met online, on a forum about comics and sci-fi, and we played games online together. Turned out we lived near each other, and we went out for lunch together. I came over his house a few times before the hookup. I thought he was a cool guy and a great pal, still do.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were chatting online a few months after I’d been over his house for the first time. We were talking about girls (I thought I was straight, and he’s bisexual) and I admitted I was a virgin. He told me he was too. Eventually I told him I was curious about guys, and after a lot of talking, we decided we were going to experiment next time I came over.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I gave him a BJ, and he gave me a BJ too. Neither of us was any good at it, but it was satisfying for me to try sucking. He had a really nice cock and nice big balls, both shaved to perfection. Toward the end of each one, the recipient jerked off into the other guy’s mouth. His cum tasted pretty good. Later on, he fucked me in the ass. It was the first time I’d done it. It felt pretty good, but after awhile he asked if he could take off the condom. I told him he could, I figured it was fine since he was a virgin, and I couldn’t catch anything from him. I came multiple times. When he came, it felt like he’d lit a match in my ass. Very very hot. It felt really great. After this, we kept hanging out as friends, and occasionally we’d suck each other off or he’d fuck me.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was a little insecure about it at first but now I feel pretty good. He’s still my friend, but I moved far away and we don’t talk as much. I’d still hook up with him again.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I talked to another online friend right after. He congratulated me, was happy that I had a good time, but didn’t have much else to say about it.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Getting fucked in the ass at the end.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I’m kind of afraid to tell my girlfriend that she didn’t actually take my virginity. But that’s it.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I think that FWBs shouldn’t be looked down upon, and consensual experimenting should be encouraged. Rather than straight I call myself “heteroflexible.” I never was attracted to guys, not romantically into guys, but having sex with guys feels great.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think casual sex, FWBs, consensual experimenting, polyamory, and such should not be looked down upon. I like the idea of a world where religion, taboo-ness, and uptight people don’t influence how we feel about sex.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s pretty cool.
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