What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 69
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Overland Park, KS
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Retired reseacher
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Open to having casual sex with either gender
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 30+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 2
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I have been a serious long term open relationship for 37 years. At the time , my primary partner and I had just celebrated our 34th anniversary. My primary partner and I both traveled frequently for work and began to discuss opening our relationship to include multiple lovers. He saw only women. I used this as an opportunity to explore my attraction to women. Four years ago I posted a dating profile for a casual relationship and met 4 men. For a short period of time I fucked all four of them.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Bart and I met at popular French restaurant and immediately liked each other. We drank a couple of glasses of wine then ordered a bottle of wine. He was an excellent dinner partner conversant on a wide range of topics. After dinner we took a walk and had a frank conversation about our sexual needs, desires and availability. Bart was married and did not want a divorce, but wanted a lot more sex and sexual variety. I wanted a part time lover to help me meet my high sexual needs.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After we agreed that what we wanted was mutually satisfactory he began to explore my body – cupping my ass while we walked, putting his arm around my shoulders and squeezing my breast. We found a park bench and we began to loosen our clothing and began touching. He stroked and squeezed my breasts, slid his hands over my skin inside my blouse and then slipped his fingers into my vagina while French kissing me. I slid my hands over his cock and rubbed him while he groaned. I would have straddled him and fucked him on the park bench, but we could see a dog walker approaching. We walked back to my scar and got in the back seat. He pushed me down and buried his face in my pussy while using his thumb to thrust into my vagina and his middle finger up my ass. I wrapped my legs around his neck arching my back in rhythm to his thrusting. It was so erotic. I came but he wouldn’t let me up. He continued to eat me out and finger me roughly until I came and came. When he finally let go I was drenched with saliva and vaginal fluids and limp from multiple climaxes. While I recovered he unzipped his pants and stroked his penis. When I was ready I took all of his cock in my mouth and pulled it and out periodically stopping to run my tongue under the head of his penis. When he was ready to climax he grabbed my head and pushed me down. I sucked his penis until he came in my mouth.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was elated that I had found a potential lover to add to my open relationship. He called me the following day and we have been hooking up 1-4 times per month since. My primary partner is happy with my secondary relationship. My secondary partner’s wife still does not know. Recently my secondary partner has had a couple of sexual encounters with an attractive bisexual former colleague. We are talking about inviting her to be part of our relationship as a threesome and 1 – 1. The two of them together and the other woman and me.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Discussed STI testing history, Exchanged recent STI test results
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My primary partner. He was pleased by my choice.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Other
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Fantastic sex which led to an ongoing sexual relationship
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I prefer to be in completely open relationships in which all parties are aware.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No. I have been in casual sexual relationships for almost 40 years. It is an amazing high with the right partners. I throughly enjoy hot casual sex,
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? It is necessary to pick partners carefully and be certain that this kind of relationship is for you.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sec in which the goal is for each partner to have great sex is very healthy. Casual sec which is not respectful or completely indifferent is harmful.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think sharing and reading other stories is great.
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