Opened My Eyes To So Much



What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 39
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Georgia
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Adventurer and explorer – started here
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 150
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Opened My Eyes To So Much

How long ago did this hookup happen? 20 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? It was my best friends girlfriend at the time. She was about 5’7 somewhat plain but very attractive, nice skin, intoxicating smell, nice perky b cups and nice nipples. A very nice tight young little pussy

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? My best friend was pretty mean to this girl overall. Nothing over the top, he just neglected her for the most part. She was very pretty, but often he didn’t seem interested in spending time with her… crazy because he married a very unattractive girl. Anyway… we were all at college together and she used to come to me when she was pissed at him. Often we would drive around and talk and sometimes we would park somewhere. Before it was always just talking…. this night she took her shorts off and only had panties on, and also took her shirt off and only had a bra on…. I had had sex with girlfriends before but was still so naive…. I feel so stupid that I didn’t realize what’s she was wanting. Eventually she came to my side of the car and straddled me and ground against my hard cock… we made out, but eventually decided not to do anything that we would regret….

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? So after that night, we started going driving together more often… it was 3-4 nights a week that I was taking her somewhere to fuck her brains out. Truth it is was a great time and we did develop feelings for each other, but it never became more than a hookup

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? In the beginning, I was a little guilty, but that subsided quickly…. we had a great time and I still look back on it fondly to this day. I’d fuck her again now.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Didn’t want to disappoint my partner, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I’ve never really told anyone besides other hookups — meaning I have told other strangers that I’ve had sex with

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? We were very close friends, and it was an amazing physical and emotional connection.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I think it messed up our friendship… after that year, we went to separate schools and she kept her distance. She ultimately became a lesbian but things were good between us when the sex stopped and for months before the relationship ended

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes – it opened me up to a new world of casual sex which has grown through the years. Mostly oral sex, but I’ve had oral with at least 150 partners or so. I’ve had intercourse with probably about 60-75

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I’d like to see her again

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think it can become addictive and that causes each experience to become less powerful. I think you need to be careful. I think my first dozen or so encounters were by far the most enjoyable and powerful but it is still very fun and enjoyable. I wonder how much impact it has on my real relationships.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s very arousing to read the stories… I’d like to see what the research would say.

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