What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 54
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? University Administration
What’s your current relationship status? Married 31 years, last 6 years sexless
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Lonely
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 6
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 2
Opening Up To My Hair Dresser
How long ago did this hookup happen? Last Thursday
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Maren is 32 and married with a couple of kids. She is blonde, with shoulder length hair, 36d boobs is a little chunky from having 2 kids, but has a nice firm butt. Maren is 5 foot 5 inches and is outgoing, has a great wit, is sarcastic, and we get along great. My wife knows that Maren is into me and has been for over 3 years now. Maren and I know we have a deep attraction for each other and we often joke and kid, but neither one of us have had the strength to act on it. Maren has been our family hairdresser for over 10 years now. Personally, I am deeply attracted to Maren physically, emotionally, and mentally. Our feelings started as an infatuation and have grown into a platonic love affair.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were getting our hair done by appointment. My wife went first and then my adult children went next and they all left. This left Maren and me alone. I had recently tried to engage my wife in some sort of sexual relations. I need to feel our bodies, our skins intermingled together. I needed this at minimum a couple of times a month to once a week. My wife’s reaction was to tell me as she has for six years, she just isn’t up for that. I felt hurt, betrayed and dismissed. I have been faithful to our relationship for 31 years, and now, I finally made a decision. I was going to look and find a woman who was married, who would become my lover and provide the physical interaction I needed.
I ended up sharing this with Maren as she cut my hair. She listened, non-judgmentally and asked a few questions like how was I going to find someone? I told her it would be someone I know and trust, who would want to be with me, to retreat into a bubble with me where all that matters is me and her and being one. I wouldn’t want her to leave her family, I would just want a time each week where we would willingly and eagerly anticipate both making love together and being engulfed completely together. She then asked if I had anyone in mind and when I responded yes, she asked who. I looked at Maren and decided to be truthful and test the waters.
“You would be number one Maren, but I know you’re happily married and love your husband, so I wouldn’t ask or hit on you.” Maren put down her clippers and scissors saying she was finished and said: “Wait here.” She walked over to the door, locked it and came back. She undid the hairdressing apron wrapped around me, put it to the side and looked at me, her bright blue eyes twinkling and I had seen that hungry look before. “I am in love with you and you’re done searching. I’ll eagerly be your lover.” With that Maren leaned down to where I was sitting in the chair, and kissed me passionately. The first kiss we shared was a simple and long peck, followed instantly with her tongue parting my lips and then our tongues dancing together and moving back and forth from each of our mouths.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I stood and embraced her, and we continued to make out. I felt her hands on my back, pulling my body into hers. For the next ten minutes we made out and then Maren said “Not here. Come to my house.” I agreed and we closed up the shop and drove the 10 minutes to her house. We parked, entered her house and Maren shut and locked the door. We kissed again and then stopped as Maren took me by the hand and led me from her living room, down a hall to her bedroom. We entered the bedroom, Maren shut and locked the door and we instantly began to make out. After some time, we let go and my hand worked my way to her shirt, which I removed with her bra revealing her breasts. Her nipples were rock hard and I began to caresses and touch them. I felt her hand remove my shirt and tee shirt.
I removed her jeans and her panties so she was naked in front of me. I was hard and I got harder as Maren undid my belt, slowly undid my zipper, and removed my pants and boxers. She led me to her bed, and we laid down side by side. I sucked her breasts now and fingered her as I felt her fingertips lightly touching my testicles. It felt incredible to have a woman want to touch me and let me touch and explore her. I eventually worked my way down, kissing her navel and then inner thighs on each leg. I worked my tongue up to her vagina and began licking around her vagina on her lips, turning her on. I worked my way to her vagina and licked all around the opening and finally, hardening my tongue, I inserted it inside of her vagina and began a come here motion with my tongue. I found her g-spot and worked it as Maren’s body responded to the stimuli. I started slowly and then worked up to a constant pace, as Maren thrust her vagina moving in a circular motion. Her body was matching my tongue now, and she moaned.
Suddenly she moved rapidly, her whole body responded as she moaned loudly until she released several pleasure screams. After having several orgasms she motioned for me to come up and her right hand now began to stroke my penis. She laid me on my back, and mounting me, she used her vagina to guide my eager penis inside of her. As I entered Maren, I worried that I would ejaculate quickly since it had been so long. I didn’t as Maren masterfully thrust my penis slowly in and out of her vagina. She would slowly increase her pace of thrusting in and out and adjust her position to pleasure herself and me. Then Maren went for it, driving my penis deeper and with ever increasing the tempo, in and out and then faster and faster. I felt my penis harden more as I got ready to ejaculate inside of my lover, and I suddenly heard Maren moan loudly several times as I felt her vagina squeeze my dick. I lost it and ejaculated deep inside of her while she squeezed and milked my dick for every ounce of cum.
We eventually moved to laying side by side, holding each other, kissing and talking. I told Maren I wanted her as my lover and she agreed, wanting me as her lover. She was amazed at how long and how great sex was with a patient man. We began to touch, kiss and stimulate each other and we then made love in the spooning position which was also incredible. We turned each other on one last time and this time Maren wanted the missionary position. We made love for the next thirty minutes taking our time. Maren had multiple orgasms as I ejaculated what I had left from an evening of making love. We held each other again after this, made out, talked and finalized our plans on how we were going to be lovers moving forward.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We actually hooked up at my house on Saturday since my wife was out of town and we made love all day, from 8 am to 7 pm. Incredible. I have never felt so connected to a sexual partner in my life and Maren feels the same, it is as if we are soul mate lovers. For now, we accept that our relationship is about the sex and we will see if in time that changes. It was terrific to make love to a woman who wanted me, and I her and to say I love you and connect.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, I was feeling lonely
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one else.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Okay, to have sex again after six years was incredible! I was worried I wouldn’t keep up with a younger woman but being 20 years older with a lot more experience makes for incredible and wonderful sex together. Add to that a deep emotional connection and it was the best sex I have ever had.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Shame my wife couldn’t get past her pain, wouldn’t get help for it.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It has made me move from being faithful to finding a woman who will be my partner and together, we meet each other’s needs.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Glad I finally had the courage to hit on Maren.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I have never really been into casual sex, I like a connection to someone before engaging in sex. This encounter or encounters shows me though that having a lover is great as long as you spell out the boundaries for it.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Interesting to read of other encounters.
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