Out of the Blue

by Natalie

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 32
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Boston
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Program Coordinator
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 16
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Out of the Blue

How long ago did this hookup happen? Less than a month

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Well he is very muscular man with a great body – think big teddy bear but with big muscles. He’s absolutely beautiful and I always thought so. I was attracted to him from the beginning. We’d been friends for about 5 years, but with only sporadic interaction. I knew he liked me but I wrote him off as a player. We initially met on a dating app, but always kept in touch. He was the one that would reach out from time to time. I was highly attracted to him before the hookup.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Wellllll he had talked about catching up and we had recently kinda rekindled our initial attraction. I just so happened to be in his area and popped over to see him after a date I was on – nothing came from the date. So there was minimal planning and he thought I was a prude so I don’t think he thought anything was going to happen.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? There was a lot of pent up sexual tension there. I think we had wanted this in the back of our minds for years. We had fourplay – back rubs, making out, grinding and roaming hands. There was no oral sex. The sex was amazing. He had a good size dick and it filled me up nicely. He was hungry for me so he was a bit rough. But just enough. He keep asking me, “who are you?” as we were moving bc like I said earlier, he really thought I was a prude. Little did he know I wanted him just as much as he wanted me. We had sex twice that night and the first time I squirted which he loved.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt comfortable after the hookup. We’d known each other for years and had held off this long. We were past due. Sex didn’t change anything. There have been talks of getting together again, but nothing has manifested yet. We are both single parents with busy lives so it’s a challenge. But I’m certain we are both excited to hookup again so long as we are both single.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Fertility awareness (days counting, temperature), Discussed STI testing history

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Thought it was an important experience to have

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Close friends who thought it was about time.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The build up of sexual tension and the trust we had in one in other made for a great experience.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? We failed to use a condom. In hindsight, I would have changed that.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Nope

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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