Per Usual

by Jordan

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 16
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none

Per Usual

How long ago did this hookup happen? Today

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Tall, skinny, brown hair, blue/green eyes. You’re average slacker. We’ve been back and forth hooking up for about a year. I met him from friends of friends. The first time we met, we instantly had a sexual connection and the second time I saw him, we fucked. It’s been just sex ever since. Until I moved away and he got a girlfriend. Then, I came to visit and we hooked up even though he was seeing a girl. I called it off after that, but of course, that never works and we’re back at it.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Our sexual connection is so strong, it’s all we know what to do with one another, which makes it sad. I would love to be in a relationship with him, but I can’t stand being with him unless we’re naked together.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We take our clothes off, we foreplay, oral, more oral, missionary, doggy, cowgirl, sixty-nine, side. He spanked, I told him it’s better than calling me offensive names. It was great– The secret behind casual sex is the physical connection between two people with no emotional link. We don’t make each other feel good because of love, but because it’s as close to magic we’ll ever reach. It’s being on fire without getting burned. He finished on my chest. I came twice. Then, we cuddled, tickled bodies with no talking.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt satisfied and relaxed. I do hope we can both find someone we truly appreciate. I’ll always feel good with him, which is not good.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Marijuana, hashish

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Marijuana, hashish

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Friends.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Feeling comfortable.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The coconut oil as lube.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Every encounter does– and most of the time, it’s positive thinking.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think casual sex is not anything new, people are finally fine to discuss it, though. More discussions and acceptance would be ideal.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? 10/10

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