Perks Of Sleeping With a Bartender

by Elsie

Gender: Female
Age: 20
Race/ethnicity: Caucasian
Location: Western Australia
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
Occupation: Bartender
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 35+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

Perks of Sleeping with a Bartender

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Booty call

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was tall, with dark hair and these stunning blue eyes. He worked at a bar near my art school. He was always very charming when I came in for a drink before class or on lunch breaks.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was reading a book on my own, smoking a cigarette and drinking a beer, and he sat at the table opposite, facing me. He had a friend with him, and they were talking and somehow we got talking and they invited me to sit with them. We flirted for a while, and got a few rounds of drinks. I asked him how much I owed him and he replied for me not to worry, he was the manager. (Score.) Another friend of mine joined us, and B (as I will call him now for discretion) passed me his phone to put my number in. A bit later, I went off to the bathroom and he followed me, and asked for a “compatibility test”.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I of course agreed and we made out for a few minutes, when he told me to meet him back at that same spot in 10 minutes. He went off to do something, I went back to the table, finished my beer and told the guys I’d be back in a moment as I needed another drink. We locked ourselves in the store room and fucked eachother silly in every position feasible with our limited space. He talked dirty, pulled my hair, did everything I like having done in bed (or in this case, store room). I gave him head, he returned the favour of course. He came in my mouth, and it was fantastic. We went back outside as if nothing had happened with fresh beers. We still booty call each other even now, 2 years later.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? I was on the pill at the time, but because it was such a sudden thing we didn’t use a condom. We discussed it later though, and both got tested, both of us were clear and we still fuck without condoms.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? He was gorgeous, I’m constantly horny (which is great because so is he) and it was exciting.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? A few beers and whiskeys.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We are each other’s bootycalls. I know he finds it difficult to keep our thing on the down low, us both bartending on the same street in the city, but we’re mates. I go to his house sometimes and smoke joints, eat pizza, watch bad movies and fuck. We got a good thing going.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Friends who high fived me, my mother who also high fived me despite the age gap (he was 26, I was barely 18)

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Both definitely consensual.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not one bit.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? In terms of sex, he remains the best sexual partner I’ve had in a long time. And I’ve slept with more than a few people, men and women. I’ve always viewed sexuality as the opposite of taboo, I think it’s good to talk about and everyone has funny or awkward stories to tell. Women get criticised for sleeping around more than men, which is a shame. I think as long as I’m not hurting anyone, I can sleep with whoever I like.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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