Questioned Morals

by Anastasia

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Virginia
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Waitress
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 11
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Questioned morals

How long ago did this hookup happen? Recently

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My partner was a lot older than me (21 years). I had known him for about 4-5 months, I worked in a restaurant where he was the go-to “handy man”. I had a school girl crush on him that he knew about.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It was sort of mutual. I had a crush on him and he knew it. We stayed after work and had a few drinks together. We were both drunk and I invited him over.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We started off making out and eventually had oral sex with each other. We were both vocal about what we wanted and I felt he was more experienced than any other guy I’ve been with. He ended up sleeping over and it wasn’t weird at all in the morning.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We carried on our normal relationship. Saw each other at work and it wasn’t strage at all. We’ve even hooked up a few times after this. I feel like what I feel for him may be more than a crush but im not sure if it’s love or lust.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) IUD (Intrauterine device)

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Thought it was an important experience to have, Intoxication, I was feeling lonely

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My two best friends- they both thought it was funny/awesome that I hooked up with an older guy.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? The guy has been in a committed relationship for about 2 years and his girlfriend was out of town on business.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I had wanted it for a long time and it was nice to satisfy the curiosity

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The fact that he was cheating on his significant other to be with me

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Im not sure if I should feel guilty about being with someone who is in a relationship. At the end of the day it was mutual and he is the one cheating but im not sure if I should be feeling remorse over being “the other woman”

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? A great way to get things off your chest

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