What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 77
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Engineer/professor
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 20
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 2
How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We met in high school, and knew each other for only a year before I moved away. M, as I will call her, was/is pretty but with an average body then, but better now with a bit of “work”. We dated a little bit then. I liked her but was not particularly attracted romantically.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I had not seen her between the time I move away after freshman year and the 50th reunion. Even at the 50th, I didn’t actually renew contact. I am not sure why. Sometime after the reunion we reconnected for real on Classmates. Very soon after reconnecting we knew that there was considerable mutual attraction reawakening. She had a boyfriend at the time and the two of them stopped by our house on their way through the area. Another time, the two of them stayed here overnight. Nothing significant happened, just a hug and a kiss when no one was looking. A few weeks later the boyfriend died suddenly. As it happens, we had small annual reunions in Florida where so many of us have retired. About year 53, after a couple of visits here and many visits on Skype, including cyber masturbation, we knew that there would be sex when we got together for the next reunion party. She was coming in from about 600 miles away and had a motel room very near the party site. We planned to meet at her motel.
(Interesting side story: My wife knew what we were planning to do and asked to M to have SDT tests and give us the written report. The report is still in one of my medical files. Even though the kids know we are in an open relationship, I wonder what they will think when they find that report after I am gone.)
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We met at her motel in the morning of the first day of the reunion. It didn’t take long before we were kissing and petting. Off came the clothes and we started by me giving her a full body massage. She is so well toned and soft and smooth, I loved it. A previous boyfriend had talked her into having a boob job, which, I must say, was VERY well done. The scars were not completely gone, but that did not make any difference. I played with her breasts and found out that the nipples were not very sensitive anymore because of the surgery. I switched to her genitals. She was perfectly waxed. So smooth and soft and kissable. Between my fingers and my tongue she had a wonderful orgasm. It came surprisingly fast, but I certainly don’t mind that. Then I laid back and she did oral on me. It was very good, slow, soft, tender, and entirely enjoyable. After a while we knew that it was time for intercourse, which we did with her legs over my shoulders. So deep, so satisfying and so natural.
We did it again later in the day.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? There have been 5 reunion parties since then. We have met for every one of them. Sometimes she would come to our house (no sex here) for a few days and I would drive to the reunion site. Each time, she would get a motel so we could make love twice in the day. It’s been 2 years since the last party, but we are looking forward to the 60th reunion next year. We Skype regularly, and cybersex is often on the menu.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Sterilization, Exchanged recent STI test results
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Wife only. In an open relationship and she didn’t have much to say. She is not interested in details.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Just the freedom to screw as much as we wanted to. She is still very horny. I think she could screw all day long if there was anyone who could keep up with her.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Too short a time together.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not at all.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I’m all in favor for those who can do it without negative consequence.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It is good that someone is finally giving serious thought to costs and benefits of casual sex. Get the religious and hypocritical nuts out of the conversation, and get some real data and dialogue.
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