Sex, Party & Bliss



What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 47
What’s your race/ethnicity? Black
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? New Jersey
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Self employed
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 40 something
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Sex, Party and Bliss

How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My friend is 35 years old Russian/Dominican mix. We’ve been friends for over 10 years. We’ve hooked up before a few times *only when Cocaine and Alcohol were involved. We met through mutual friends. I thought she was very pretty but never lusted after her. Drinks or not, we were always able to maintain a platonic friendship until something just happened.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were at her apartment doing lines and having drinks, she’s quite the exhibitionist and she would model various outfits for me. I found this entertaining and was amused to say the least. This particular night, I got super aroused and we started kissing.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? A great kiss will turn me on and it did, we kissed passionately for a long time and then I undressed her and just stared at her beautiful body. She dropped to her knees and took my throbbing dick out and began what I’d describe as one of the BEST blow jobs I ever had in my life. I picked her up and threw her on the bed so I could reciprocate. I started very gently teasing her, pulling her lips back and repeatedly kissing her clit over and over. I inserted two fingers curling both fingers inside of her until she came in my mouth. I wanted her so bad, I grabbed for a condom put it on and my dick wouldn’t stay hard because of the coke. She laid me on my back, removed the condom and sucked me off until I came.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We both felt a little guilty, because she knows my GF and has been to our house. BUT we have our emotions in check. We understand and love our S/O’s very dearly if that makes sense.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Intoxication

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Cocaine

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Cocaine

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A close relative /They were excited because they think she’s hot

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? Because I have a GF and the sexual partner knows her very well.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? That Amazing Blow Job and her cumming down my throat, hearing her sultry moans as she came. Blew my mind.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Doing this behind my GF’s back.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? We still hook up at least once every quarter and now she has a BF that constantly leaves her alone.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Saved my relationship. I believe a good kinky hookup is great for both parties.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s AWESOME just keep these emails SAFE!! We don’t want a repeat of what happened to a hook up site that was strictly for married people.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!