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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 72
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Retired
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Multiple
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? Zero

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How long ago did this hookup happen? 10 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I had met this lady on an internet site. We both talked casually for several months before the hookup. Even though I indicated the hookup was 10 years ago, it continued until about 3 years ago. She was about my age which was 62 at the time, was married, lived in a rural area and had a family that mostly lived at home. Consequently all of our meetings were in hotels. She was attractive from her pictures and provided me with several pictures that were very revealing. She had nice 36DD breasts, a nice ass, and a good body for a 62 year old.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We had previously met at a restaurant and found each other compatible. We agreed to meet at a local motel at a later date. We met and I found out she enjoyed gambling in general and enjoyed cards in particular. We agreed to play strip poker. We played while she sat on the bed and I sat in a chair by the bed. I don’t recall how the game went other than we both ended up nude. What surprised me was how willing she was to undress and allow me to see her. At my request, she was shaved which turned me on immensely.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? She admitted she was very oral and performed a great BJ. I admitted to being oral and went down on her. At some point, I remember we were standing at the foot of the bed and I took her from behind while standing. She put her foot up on the foot of the bed so I could enter her and I was able to fondle her breasts and play with her clit. We moved from the foot of the bed to the bed proper and tried a variety of positions, each seemingly better than the previous.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We both agreed it had been fun and we would meet again. I was very attracted to this lady because she was very open sexually and I had never experienced that behavior. She appeared to be willing to experiment with various sexual thoughts and attitudes. This was an ongoing 10 year FWB and I believe she became much more emotionally involved than I did. I respect and appreciate our time together but it was only FWB for me.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Discussed STI testing history, Exchanged recent STI test results

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)f

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Experimenting with someone that also wanted to try new things.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Limited time

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Guilty that we didn’t do more.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I have enjoyed casual sex with several partners. I still enjoy it but the opportunities are limited at my age.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I enjoy reading.

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