by बीड़ी बाज़ उस्ताद
What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 22
What’s your race/ethnicity? Indian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? India
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Writing
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Hindu
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 10
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
She Gave Me Respect, I Gave Her Pleasure
How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 months back
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was a sweet looking girl with curly hair and had fun and playful outlook on life. She was younger than me (19). Before we had sex we interacted closely and discussed sex and issues that pertain to body and sexuality and gender. I felt close to them before having sex and the closeness was not like we were interfering in each other’s lives but more like understanding our beliefs and motivations in life.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It began in her sister’s room and it was planned that we were going to have sex because we had discussed it before.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Oral sex from her to me
We were accepting of each other’s bodies! It ended with us having penetrative sex three times and she was a good lover who actively participated!
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I wanted to have sex with her sometime later also. But because of her commitment to her own life, she could not do so.
My expectations were nothing more than staying in touch with her and having sex when we felt the urge without the need for a relationship!
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody. It was meant to be between us.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? My sexual frustration of not having had sex for past more than six months came to an end. But it only resulted in more horniness in coming few days and that horniness still survives to this day.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? We had sober sex. Then we had sex when she was a little drunker than me. That was worst. I loved the sober sex but not the drunk one.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I believe our bodies are meant to be shared and there should be free to have sex once you know that your partner with not spread the news about you, will use contraceptive (condom) and won’t force you into things that you do not want to indulge in.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? When are we fucking next my dear?
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It is a good thing if you are into it. If you are doing to fit in or because of low self-esteem, it is not worth the effort.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? A great initiative that will help people get more open to having sex without the imposed need of a relationship.
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