by Beach bum
What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 66
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Retired
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 75
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 week
What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was very young to me. Mid 20’s. Quite attractive and flirty. Quite obvious she wanted a sexual relationship, but she was still shy. I was unsure of approach until she invited me to go down on her.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? She instigated it with her invitation. It was spontaneous.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Oral sex at first, leading to intercourse multiple times. Many times we enjoy mutual masturbation. The turn on for me, outside of her attractiveness, was her age. I’m 40 years older than her (but very well preserved), and she treats me sexually as a peer. This is quite exciting. She is relatively inexperienced and I’ve taught her much. She desires more teaching.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We couldn’t keep our hands off each other.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Sterilization, Discussed STI testing history, Exchanged recent STI test results
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Power / Dominance, Making new friends
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Her age and willingness to explore.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? All good.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not really. This is clearly an exception.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? It is still ongoing. Emotional involvement is imminent.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex is great! It allows exchanges of the kind no I used to have back in my hippie days.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Well worth it. We need to know others’ experiences.
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