Submissive in Training



What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 58
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? consultant
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? DOM
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 30+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? o

Submissive in Training

How long ago did this hookup happen? 15 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Cute and nice body? Never saw them until the first time that evening. Met on Craigslist. Nervous about what she would look like and just all of it.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We had talked on line for a couple of weeks. Then she agreed to come to my home for a meet and see. I was very scared thinking damn what have I done what will she look like, big fat and ugly. It was January and cold and so I  couldn’t tell what she look like until she was in my home. Wow – very nice in her late 40s, 5’3″and 130 lbs with short blondish hair, a  sweet face, and a lovely smile. She came in and sat on the couch with me and we talked for some time about everything but sex. Then I thought, what the hell ask her what she wants to do, because we had been clear on the phone this was about sex. She said yes she was willing and now was a good time. I reached over and touched her tits under her shirt and she smiled and reached down and touch my crouch. She was not into kissing so I opened her blouse and unsnapped the bra and went down and sucked on her tits. She moaned and said that was what she wanted and needed and it felt good. This was the first women I had ever been with that talked openly and bluntly about what was going on. She moaned some more and then i put my hand in her panties, actually a thong and fingered her. This was very hot and I was turned on.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We got more turned on and she moaned and told me not to stop and I was all for that. Fingering her pussy and sucking on her nice tits was great for me and she kept saying, “Fuck me,” so I guess it was good for her as well. Her cumming was great and made her ready to move to the bed and get laid. She sucked on my cock and then I mounted her and, lifting her legs, went for the gold. Very hot and good.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Felt like I couldn’t wait for the next round of sex with her. Thought she might want the same and said I would hear from her in the next week and had a call the next afternoon. She told me she wanted to be submissive for me and I agreed to take charge. The very next meeting she was a sub all the way and we went from there sharing her with other guys and her first pussy experience.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? no one

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Her dirty mouth and willingness to submit to my control.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It was too short.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? no

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Nice way to begin a 2+ year fuck buddy friendship.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? very positive

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Thanks will write more.

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