Sugar & Spice

by Jess

Gender: Female
Age: 32
Race/ethnicity: White
Current location: United States
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
Occupation: College instructor
Relationship status: Married
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 6
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Sugar & Spice

How long ago did this hookup happen? 9 months

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Friends with benefits

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We met at the gym. We were instantly drawn to one another. He has dark hair and eyes. Very handsome. We started chatting in the hot tub which led to us exchanging phone numbers and texting all night. Catch here is we are both married. But we are both in open relationships. So we made plans to hook up the next morning. First time around was pretty awkward. I thought he wouldn’t call or text ever again but 5 min later he text me!  It’s been almost 9 months and we have talked every day and see each other at least 1 time a week. He is Adventurous and fulfills my naughty girl side while my husband tames the other side of me.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It just happened…we talked and hit it off

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Our first time together was kind of short. We both climaxed within a couple of minutes. I thought it was great because we climaxed together. We talked about it and made plans to see each other again the next day.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? Yes. Both.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We discussed STIs and made sure we were both clean.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? We both wanted to try something new. We were instantly drawn to one another. We also discussed that neither one of us had ever felt like that after just getting to know someone

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? no

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We both thought the other wouldn’t text or call again. But we were both wrong! We talked 5 min after he left and have talked everyday since then. We still see each other at least once a week.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? We both wanted this

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? no

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I was always afraid of casual sex. This actually has worked out perfectly. Even thou we are both in open relationships, we have toned it down and if we aren’t with our spouses we are together

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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