Taiwanese Artist

 

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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 30
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? Malaysia
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Scuba diving instructor
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Buddhist
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 15
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Taiwanese Artist

How long ago did this hookup happen? December 2017

What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met her at an art museum. She is a typical Asian girl who loves selfies. I noticed her from a distance talking selfies with the exhibitions. I went over to her and offered to take her picture in English. She was very friendly, and we chatted before going to have coffee together.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I asked her if she knew a place for tourists away from the central town and she agreed to show me around. After visiting, I told her that I was exhausted and needed to rest. We went to a motel and cuddled for a while before having sex.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? She was a little reluctant at the beginning, but after she took her bra off, she started to get excited. We did not use protection because she did not have a boyfriend and it had been two years since she had last had sex.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We met up and had sex three more times before I left Taiwan. We still message each other. I promised that I would go back again before the end of this year which I am looking forward to.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They didn’t give a clear ‘yes’ but didn’t give a ‘no’

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My close friends. They were surprised.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? She was very kind and affectionate.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I felt bad for cheating.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes. I feel more confident.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It’s common. We should be able to be polygamous.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Awesome. It encourages me to go and do what I want to do.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!