The First

by Nat

Gender: female
Age: 22

Race/ethnicity: Latina
Location: Mexico
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)|
Occupation: Student
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Nothing
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 1
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

The First

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 month

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? friends with benefits

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He is handsome so he doesn’t need too much to look fine. We knew in the university,  4 years ago, and i was in love with him but he wasn’t so we were friends since that time. All this time we tell us our problems, adventures and many things sometimes we spoke until 3 or 4 am. Before the hook up he was a very good friend.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were talking about casual sex by whatsapp one day, the second day i asked him if he wanted to have that type of relationship, i was only joking but he no…so we started planing our first sexual date.
We were motivated because of our single status and our intentions of enjoying sex without commitment after that.

Obviously, i put the rules before, first of all, we would stop when one of us starting having dates with someone else, the second rule was confidence in each other, the third was stopping when one of us starting falling in love with the other, the follow rule was not to say to anyone about it and be friends like nothing happens out of the room. i don’t remember the order but there were the law, we accepted.
The previous day i told him i only wanted oral sex and he agreed.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I was very tired because of the job. He invited me to his house, i went. There we were talking for two hours because we weren’t sure about hookup, but we started, and it was amazing, unfortunately i didn’t have an orgasm because i was in my period and i didn’t let him stimulate me a lot, i made oral for him, it was the first time i did this, he was surprised but he enjoyed it.
We didn’t talk so much, only for instructions. His behavior was excellent, he answered what i did, he wasn’t rude or something like that.
After we finished, he carried me to my home and asking for my comfort during the date the following day, then we still talking about that day or whatever, like before or better. I feel the confidence to tell him when i want to see him or what i would like to do, but we are friends too. This relationship is the something like perfect.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We didn’t use a condom cause only was oral. Obviously we talk about sti, previous partners and sexual behavior with them, we answer all the doubts the other has.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Enjoying and demonstrate to me i am able to have that relationship without fall in love

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Neither of us were drunk.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We were friends like always and better, the confidence is greater.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I broke that rule, so i told some friends, my best friend judged me and was angry for days, but some others take that like a good news.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Was wanted and consensual for both of us

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No, never

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? We enjoyed during the event and after that while we talk.

Of course it changed the way i thought…. i feel free.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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