The Gift



What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 30
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? South America
What country and/or city do you live in? Chile
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Editor
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 4
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1

The Gift

How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We meet on Facebook. She added me, because she is the friend of a friend of mine from college. We talked a lot, and we had a good feeling about each other and we felt a real attraction.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? One night, we talked and she ask me “What is your gift for my birthday?” And I said I need to think about what you like. Then she said “I got an idea.” I answered  “My gift for you would be a passionate night for you.”

She said: “I was thinking about it.” I said “Ok, you got it. prepare for a real passionate night.”

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After dinner, we went to the hotel room. First I kissed her. Then we took off our clothes very slowly. She was wearing beautiful lingerie for me. We fucked in so many positions, and we both had orgasms multiple times. We had sex five times that night and two times in the morning.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After this encounter, she asked me directly about starting a relationship, but before this, we talked about it and we agreed that night was only sex, because we have a sexual tension. Then, we lost contact.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Plan B / Emergency contraception

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, To feel better about myself

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? A little bit

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sex, was a good moment, we have a real attraction and we expressed that in multiples times that night.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The expectatives about a relationship of my partners she really waits more than a gift.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No, have sex is that, a kind of atraction that you feel with a person and if she wants too and both are singles, well try it.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex helps to satisfies our needs when we are single.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Is an a very interesting space to tell and read stories.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!