What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 22
What’s your race/ethnicity? Black
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? …
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Hospitality Work (Hotel Housekeeping)
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Over 40
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
The LAST Time
How long ago did this hookup happen? Years ago, popped into my head
What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met this guy fresh out of high school (unbeknownst to me we attended the same school, he was an upperclassman). He was short, had a huge, almost perfect smile and fell in love with me almost as soon as we started to converse. A sweet little pothead.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? This began when he hit me up on FB, which I was fairly popular on by this time, asked me if I went to so & so high school, and the rest is history. He comes to my place & smells of pineapple candy (that was SUPER DISGUSTING ) and weed. He took full control by picking me up and carrying me from the front door to the room where the REAL magic took place.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? So, we’re kissing (barely, I couldn’t bear the taste of that godforsaken pineapple candy), touching, getting hot and heavy, and also backing up until we fall onto the bed, like some movie type shit. Imagine how surprised I became when he started to slowly guide himself down to my nether regions and lap at my juices like a kitten does milk. He turned me on and got me to call him daddy in the process. The sex was the mind-blowing part though. He raised both my legs onto his shoulders and eased himself into me filling me up to what felt like the top of my head. While he’s getting a steady stroke and working this strategic beast in and out of me something crazy happens! I partially black out! Like BLACKOUT, BLACKOUT. I legit saw stars from this very basic move. I couldn’t believe it. One minute I’m in tune with the most loveable sex I could’ve had at that moment, the next I’m coming to and he’s like, “Damn baby, I put you to sleep THAT fast?” I was at loss for words. It was great though and that is where my fetish for choking during sex comes from. I like that “partial blackout” point.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We tried dating on and off for years. You know that “You argue like a married couple” saying? We were the married couple. Divorced. Still fucking like CRAZY, but divorced and can’t stand each other outside the bedroom. That was us.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I don’t kiss and tell.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How rough he was with me, I like a dominant man in bed for sure.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Him catching feelings afterward.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Hooking up is HEALTHY for you.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex shouldn’t be looked at as a bad thing or a taboo topic because we were ALL created from one of two forms of sex, people!
Casual OR Monogamous. Ha. Ha.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? This is really cool &andgives a nice little outlook on how everyday regular people are knocking boots casually and unapologetically.
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