The Virgin Cheater

by  Allyson

Gender: Female
Age: 20
Race/ethnicity: White
Location: America
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Teacher
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Catholic
How religious are you? A little
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Only Men
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

The Virgin Cheater

How long ago did this hookup happen? 4/5 years (still hooking)

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Friends with benefits

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I know him very well. Since I was in 7th grade he was in love with me but I never felt anything for him. Then in 12th grade we officially started talking, we became really close friends like BFF. He had a girlfriend and I had a boyfriend. Months later I broke up with him. Then HE wanted to do stuff but I told him to break up with his GF first. He did. But then his family started a rumor about me. He went back to his GF. And I didn’t hear from him for a couple of months.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After everything that happened with his family, our friendship was broken and so was my heart. But after a couple of months we saw each other in a baseball game and we couldn’t stop looking at each other. And after that game we started talking again but secretly, since his family couldn’t knew that we were talking. Then he started to tell me to see him and all that and since I wanted to be with him SO bad, I didn’t care about his GF or family. I decided to play his game. In a carnival he picked me up in a hospital like at 8pm it was really dark and nobody knew where we were at. Then he drive to another lonely and darker place, like a beach.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? First we were talking, then some kissing; making out really hard. Then we went to oral (both) and some fingering. At first I felt guilty since he was cheating on his GF and I’m not really that ”kind of girl” but it was the only way I could be with him. I didn’t have an orgasm. Sometimes he was a little rough and since I’m virgin (we both are) the fingering hurt a little.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? None.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? My reasons…like I said. It was the only way we could be together, since his family doesn’t want us together and he had to be with his GF because they force him to.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? No.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After that he left me at the same place he pick me up and I left. Nobody knew or knows about it, it’s been our secret. I don’t really have hopes or expectations with him, we’re just friends with benefits and I like it that way.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react?: Nobody knows.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing I guess it’s almost everything. I like being with him this way, it’s actually fun to be hiding and keeping a secret from everyone. And yes, it changed the way I think because when I was younger I thought like I should wait for the ”perfect” person but I think it’s stupid to let those years pass by and not have fun cause you’re waiting for that person. And then, what if that person arrives, he uses you and leaves? You’ll never really know it he is the ”perfect” one. Just enjoy life. Have fun. Sooner or later you’re still going to do it!

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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