What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 19
What’s your race/ethnicity? Black
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Florida
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? I”m a NEET,but I go to school.
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 1
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I and Crumb had always been friends because we both rode the same bus with my friends and we all hung out. So I knew him very well at least from the school outlook of things. He was very tall about 6ft, skinny, with the most even brown skin I have ever bared witness to, and a smile that was to die for. He was odd and rarely talked to anyone for the exception of me and my friend when we would spot each other in the hallways.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Well, we were riding on the bus and you know how it was with kids it could turn sexual in half of a minute. We had been discussing something, and one thing leads to another and he was talking about how he was a tits man. Which I found weird because I was the only one on the bus that has huge tits (46DD due to precocious puberty). I didn’t think of it much because I am very shy and had not experimented with men or my female counterparts either. A couple of weeks later, he and I were in the courtyard and he had told me that he really liked me but like I said he was very odd socially and didn’t know what to say or how to go about it. As we were talking he asked if I wanted to come and chill and watch so old movies that he had got from a yard sale. I obliged.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I got off the bus with him and we walked to his house and smoked weed on the walk over (thank god his house was like a block over because it was blazing hot). When we got there, we drank water and some of his mom’s rum. Went to his room and started watching the movie, half way through The Cabinet of Dr. Cagliari he leaned over and asked could he kiss me and I said yes. At this point, I was instantly turned on and tried to touch him, but when I tried to do this he grabbed my hand and told me no. I was a little like wtf but chalked it up to maybe he didn’t want to cum early. We got on the bed kissed and he told me to take my pants and panties off and play with myself. I did that which was requested and asked if he was going to join in he said no again and said: “I want to see how much of dirty girl you are”. So he stood jacking his dick watching and instructing me one how he wanted to see me suck on my own tits and play with myself. I did this till I came, and shortly after he did the same making sure to make eye contact with me(I laughed because I had not seen a man ejaculate before and it reminded me of watching clips of volcanic eruptions). I was still horny so I asked if we could try to have sex now. Again he told me “no” I wasn’t aggravated because I was still a virgin and just asking what I thought he wanted to do. He then sat behind me and started playing with my clit and furiously rubbing my breast until I came again. After this, he told me to lay on my stomach and he poured some oil on my butt cheeks and put some on his dick and started to rub his dick in between my butt cheeks until he came all over my back. He then gently wiped all his semen off with one of his shirts.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After I put back on my pants and panties and waited for his mom to come home from work and drive me home. He always fingered and rubbed my clit for me but we never had penetrative sex. We are still friends to this day and I am still a virgin (which sucks majorly). He is like my best friend now, but we don’t play around anymore. Because he has lots of issues from his childhood and we are just too close now (it is just weird for me because he doesn’t like to be touched and I feel like I need that to be with somebody sexually).
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Not at all
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one I am very private even with my own family because they can be very judgemental and they dont no how to hold water,
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The best part was having someone else touch me. I am a late bloomer so it was really exciting for me.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Still being a virgin because he won’t have sex with me. Also, the whole ” I can touch you but you can’t touch me” crap it is really frustrating.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not really I know how I liked to be touched now.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I think he watches too much porn LOL I always playfully tease him about him getting off from friction only.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I have never had “sex” per say but I think people think to much about it. If you want to do something then do it whether that be going for your dream job, or picking up a hot guy from the bar. It’s your life do it, live it and just be safe about it.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It is awesome the stories give me something good to dream about.
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