Tinder to FWB


What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 25
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? Kuala Lumpur
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Accountant
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Muslim
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? NONE

Tinder to FWB

How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 months ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met her (let’s call her Z) through Tinder. We chatted a while, nothing special. Just the usual stuff. Then I found out she went to the same college as me. I took the initiative to ask her out for lunch.

Lunch was ok, non-sexual. Z was very shy but attentive. Me being a Muslim and she a buddhist, we settled for some Indian muslim restaurant.

After the first meet, she asked to meet again for lunch or dinner. We had dinner near her apartment.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After dinner, I took Z to a rooftop bar and had a few drinks. We shared stories of our past relationships and she made known to me that we were not going to hook up in any way. But her body language said otherwise.

Z invited me to her apartment, she stays with another 3 girls, so she had to sneak me in as quietly as possible. It was past midnight anyway. Once we were in her room, we hugged and started kissing. Soon she was naked, exposing her firm, huge boobs and cleanly shaven pussy. I went down on her for like 30 mins and she offered me a blowjob for 10 mins. We 69’d each other and her pussy was soaking wet.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Halfway in the 69 position, she tried to insert into her pussy. We did not have a condom and I went soft. Z gave me a handjob and tried to put it in. Oh my gosh, it was the tightest pussy ever. After some try, we managed to fuck and I wasted no time shifting to various positions. Starting with her on top, then doggie to missionary to reverse cowgirl and I finished off in missionary again, cumming on her boobs.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We are still in contact and Z is now my FWB. After the first time, we had sex again the next day without a condom.

Z laid down new rules: No condom no fuck; and I must finger and eat her out at least 20 mins before action time and no cumming inside her.

Somehow down the road, we had sex without condoms and I have cum inside her twice, so far.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Told my best friend and he reacted negatively, telling me that I was certainly going to hell. WTF!

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively negative

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Having sex with a Chinese girl. She can really moan and squirt.
Best thing, she even taught me how to pleasure her.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? She has to sneak me into her room all the time.
She can’t moan loudly, because she is afraid that she will wake up her housemates.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I didn’t know that I could last that long – 90 mins
I didn’t know that I could do 4 times consecutively without rest, after ejaculation.
I didn’t know Z likes all the above

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Compared to my previous relationship, this is the first time I had sex with Chinese woman and it was superb. We are now FWB and have been doing it since the past 3 months. I am enjoying every second of it.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex is great.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? This is fantastic, it gives a platform for like-minded ppl to engage in sharing their experiences.
We don’t get this a lot in my country.

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