What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 41
What’s your race/ethnicity? South Asian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Switzerland
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? CEO
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Hindu
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 6
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0


How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was in a sexless marriage. A Long abusive one. I literally was dying from not having intimacy in my life. I met her on an online site and we met at a coffee place for coffee. She was attractive and about 10 years older than me. She was very experienced and was captivating. She had an honesty about her and she was in a sexless marriage as well. But she was very experienced and had a number of partners before me. She was attracted to my intellect I think. She taught me how to treat a woman in bed. She also taught me how to lick a woman and bring her to an orgasm.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? She instigated it. She heard my story and it drew compassion from her. She had a Friend who was traveling and she had the keys to her house. She took me there and started to kiss me. I was nervous at first. Then it got very exciting. She was so confident and led the first session. I am rather well endowed and she appreciated that.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We first started with her kissing me. I felt her breasts and was turned on. I had not been with a woman intimately for over 10 years by then. She then took off her clothes to reveal her gorgeous body. She then went on TOP of me and moaned until she came. I had learnt and read so much about Sex that I could hold by focusing on my breathing. I also was able to wait for her to come. I then entered her doggy style and finished off with a loud moan. We kissed and there was real intimacy after this.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We stayed in touch and continued having sex at least once a week for the next year or so

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, To feel more confident

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The intimacy and she being in charge

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? None

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes. I started to realise that there are so many people who can heal with intimacy

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I healed as a result of this one year of intimacy. She was so mature and she said I was too young to continue seeing her. We parted on very good terms and remain friends

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Society is too uptight about casual sex. People will heal and there will be more peace if there was more openness about sex

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