What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 18
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? South America
What country and/or city do you live in? Brazil
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Studenet
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Gay/lesbian
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Sérgio is a slim, avarage-looking white 18 year old guy. He walks a little awkward, but is well-looking. We’ve known each other for 4-5 years probably and been great friends at high school, though at college we see each other less often. We’ve flerted for a little while in the past, because we were the only gay kids in school, but there was nothing more than a little bit of attraction between us. I usually don’t consider him a plausible sex nor romantic partner.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were at a small party, invited by a friend in common. Everybody got really wasted real soon, so we were the only ones fully awake, and were just a little tipsy. I was feeling really horny that night and we were kidding in the party’s host living room tv, putting some gay porn videos and talking about it.
Later we joked about going to a sex club, or something, since we had nothing to do. He began to turn the sex jokes towards me, and somehow, I began talking about the size and shape of my penis. I had a fimose operation last year and he said he was curious to see the result of it. I said I could show him, but only somewhere private. We went to the bathroom and I showed him. We laughed and were really awkward. Since nothing happenned I put my cock back in my underwear. I somehow knew what was going on but was not really convinced it was happenning until he kissed me.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I was so horny and kissed him back without thinking about it. I took of him shirt and he took mine. We kissed more ardently, with a lot of tongue envolved. The kissing was pretty satisfactory, though not particularly. We then undressed fully. I liked his penis and started to suck it. Then, he sucked mine. I laid him on the floor and started to rub myself on him. Somewhere along the hook up I would open my eyes and see that I was fucking a friend and a little part of me would give the whole thing a 2nd thought, but I was so hot and had never done something like that, so I closed my eyes and forgot who he was.
He was then sucking my cock while I was holding his back ardently. I was very close to cumming and had never come to another person. It was amazing not having any control over my ejaculation and leaving it to him. I came in his mouth while moaning, completely out of breath. It was great. Then, I began sucking him, trying to make him cum and jerking him off. Though he looked aroused, he just couldn’t get there. I noticed then that after I came, I was more aware of who I was having sex with (in the case, my friend, who I wouldn’t fuck in other ocasions), and wasn’t drawn that much in giving him pleasure (which seemed to me, somehow, sexually unethical.) Regardless, he just couldn’t cum, which, as my friend, he told me was a current problem. I gave up and started cleaning up and so did he. We called a cab and went home, exchanging a few words.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next day, we talked a little bit, though there was nothing really to talk about it, kind of making sure there was no awkwardness between us. Though I feel, until now, he’s the same to me as he was before, we haven’t been talking much and haven’t met since then. Since we’re not a huge part of our lives right now, it doesn’t bother me that much, though maybe it should. I miss him, but I don’t feel guilty for potentially making things weird between us.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Intoxication, To cheer myself up, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A lot of friends. They were kind of shocked but, a few of them were a little creeped out, but most found it nice and exciting. One of them even envied it.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was very very exciting as a sexual encounter and was a completely new experience. The other time I had casual sex I didn’t come, and was beginning to worry it would be an issue for me. It wasn’t then, thankfully.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I’m not sure I was drawn sexually to him and I’m not sure it was good for our friendship.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Mainly, I realized that alcohol and horniness can make you fuck someone you not really that into, and that it can be in the way of my fully awareness of my sexual activity and influence the way I give pleasure.
I realized I can do casual sex and it’s not something to be ashamed of, though the circumnstances in this experience weren’t favorable (tipsiness, loneliness, horniness, friendship involved) and I intend not to repeat them again.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I believe people’s sexual choices must be respected always. Casual sex should be talked about more in order to make safe sex and consent present in all forms of sexual intimacy, regardless. Regarding my experiences, I don’t believe all kind of casual sex experiences are coherent and healthy for me and the one is partly one of them. Due to the way I was raised, I value romantism, though I also crave for adventure, so casual sex is part of my desires, but only where I’m really aware, safe and drawn to a partner.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? An amazing project to erase the stigma over a common and natural part of our civilization’s sexual life.
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