What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 28
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Norwich, CT, USA
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Social Services
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Pansexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Polyamorous
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 29 vaginal intercourse (oral partners # unknown)
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Truck Bed Kink Adventure
How long ago did this hookup happen? Sept 2016
What was your relationship status at the time?
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met this guy at a bonfire and a mutual friend tried to set us up. My husband and I were separated but I was still wanting to reconcile. Even crazy drunk, I knew staying the night didn’t feel right. I took his number and flirted and eventually, we gained momentum and had sexted but never done anything together. He was tall and rough looking, strong by definition as a firefighter and EMT. He was a bit older and had started going grey.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He called me in the middle of the night and I had just gotten home. Instead of coming inside, he picked me up. We went to a boat launch in the woods in the middle of the night. Once we got there and he had a cig on the back of his truck, I sat touching his thigh but waited for him to kiss me.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We made out for a while and then I turned so he could suck my tits. And he got a little rough and saw I liked it. He kept it up. At some point, he ended up having me on my back on his truck bed and my tits were in his hands. He was physically sliding my face against his crotch by my nips (pants still on). He continued it, seeing I was both in pain and enjoying myself so he undid his pants and let his dick hit my face, and he slid my mouth up and down his cock. He grabbed a cup from the car that had iced coffee and kept putting it on my tots for a little relief when it seemed too intense to me. He was able to finger me for a few minutes and I gushed all over the truck bed through my panties.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Unfortunately, the car showed up so we didn’t finish but we both seemed to want another visit in the future. In the car, on the way home I was grabbing my nipple cause it hurt a lot more and he pulled over and found an ice pack in the work bag he had and broke it and helped put it in place. That was the sexiest part of all. He checked how I was the next day and ever since as well.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Submission / Relinquishing power, Just happened, I don’t know why just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? A small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A few kinky friends
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? New experiences
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Minimal future visits of this nature
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes. I have learned about my openness to new kinks and sexual experiences.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? n/a
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I have become much less hard on myself when I choose to engage in casual sex.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I enjoy hearing the stories of others.
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