What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 29
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? San Francisco
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Researcher
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Pansexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Queer af
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? ~ 30
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1
Unexpected Hookup With Married Teammate
How long ago did this hookup happen? 9 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was 19 going on 20 and home from college for the summer. I joined a sports beer league — we’d practice twice a week, go to the pub once a week, and play the occasional tourney.
I brought 2 of my hometown girlfriends to the first practice. Unbeknownst to us the rest of the team comprised of guys aged 18-50. They were nice enough, though often silly and low-key sexist. I just wanted work out and improve my game, but the weekly free beer didn’t hurt either.
One guy, Grey, was particularly nice to me. He was 28 though, still almost a decade older than me. We were in better shape than most of the others, so would often run together during warmups and partner up during drills.
Grey had caramel skin, dark curly hair, dimples, and could keep up with my witty banter. But he was married so I didn’t think about hooking up with him.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? A few weeks after joining the team and meeting Grey, he offered me a ride to practice. On the way, our practice was canceled due to a lightning storm.
He turned to me and asked what I wanted to do. I said I was up for anything. Even though I just met Grey recently, I felt electrified yet comfortable around him.
He ended up driving to a pay-by-the-hour motel. After paying in cash we entered the room and made our way to the bed.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We first talked about expectations. Even though Grey was miserable in his marriage, he said he had no intentions of ending it. That was totally fine with me, as I was happy to have a friend with benefits while living in a boring town. I do wish I had been more ethical, though, as his wife did not know about our adventure. That said…
He propped up all the pillows against the headboard and I sat against them with my legs out in front of me. He put another pillow under my knees. He asked if we could kiss and we started making out. I pulled him onto me, started grinding upward, and dug my nails in his hair while we continued making out.
Grey asked if he could feel if I was wet. I grabbed his finger and ran it along the hem of my shorts, which were getting soaked with my wetness. I asked him to slip his finger inside me. He started to but then stopped, giving me a teasing smirk.
He ran his fingers over my shorts, but they were thin enough to feel the folds of my dripping lips. He looked me in the eyes, licked his fingers, moaned in pleasure, and told me I tasted delicious. That made me even wetter, which he would soon realize…
Grey grabbed my ankles, pulling me on to my back with my legs in the air. He gently lowered my legs and propped up my hips and knees with pillows. This was my first time with such an ergonomic setup — perks of hooking up with an older person, I guess.
With my permission, Grey slid off my shorts and saw I wasn’t wearing anything underneath. He asked if he could taste me. I bit my lip in anticipation, nodded, and put my hands on the back of his neck.
Grey took his time using his tongue to explore my thighs and lips. I was squirming from pleasure and his alternating between licking me and pulling away, teasing me. He finally moved his tongue further along my lips and then inside me. At first, he dipped the tip of his tongue in and out of me, gradually making his strokes longer and faster. He then started lightly tapping my clitoral hood, which was sticky and dripping. I definitely came at least a few times this way before he started finger fucking me.
After a couple of orgasms, I was feeling like a queen and ready for more. He grabbed a condom and we had penetrative sex in several positions, including missionary, reverse cowgirl, and from behind (me on all fours on the bed with my ass facing him while he stood on the floor), which felt best with the shape of his cock and my pussy. He had us look at ourselves in the mirror and see how hot we were- to be honest, we did look pretty fucking sexy. I came a few more times and he filled up 2 condoms worth of cum.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We ended up dating each other secretly for almost a year. We were very sexually compatible and I loved trying new things with him. He always made me feel safe and prioritized and pleasured, which sadly isn’t always easy to come by.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant, Discussed STI testing history, Exchanged recent STI test results
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Making new friends
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
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