What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 36
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Utah
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Supervisor
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Open minded
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 40+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? A couple
Visiting My Girlfriend
How long ago did this hookup happen? Yesterday 1/28/19
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (open)
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We are both married to other people. I am 6ft tall with dark skin. She is a few years younger than me and is 5’6″, slim, blonde, and looks amazing in lingerie. I’ve known her for just over 3 months. We met at a swingers event. Both of our spouses are okay with the two of us meeting up once in a while. We have hooked up a few times before this day. I text her every day, and I like her a lot!
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We both had a Monday off of work coming up, so we planned to meet up that day. Her husband would be working all day and the kids would be at school for a few hours. She had her house all to herself. She made both of us a grilled cheese, and we talked about the previous weekend and caught up a bit. She asked me if I wanted to watch TV in the living room or go upstairs to her bedroom…What would you have said!? So she gave me a small tour on our way to the bedroom.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We laid on the bed and kissed while I removed her shirt, eventually removing everything besides underwear. I rolled over on top of her and worked my way down to her panties. I enjoy nibbling and licking her through her panties, teasing and slowly working my way around the sides of the material until my tongue finds her tight sweet spot, and I can put my lips and tongue on her bare wet skin. I enjoy pleasing her with my mouth until I have to have her. We remove what’s left of our clothing, and I put on a condom while she watched. I laid on top of her and held her close. I always begin by entering her slowly because I enjoy that first time feeling her all around me. We fucked missionary for a bit then we rolled over so she could be on top. I removed the condom so she could rub her pussy on my hard dick. No penetration happens without protection, which is such a mind fuck of a tease, but it feels so good having bare skin contact. She came in this position and I could feel her dripping down between my legs. We rested and chatted a bit while lying naked on the bed. After a good rest, we went at it again. At one point, she used a vibrator on her clit, which turned me on so much. Her daughters would be home soon, so we had sex right up until the last few free moments. I got dressed and we shared a nice long and close hug and kiss before I walked out to my truck and left. She blew me a kiss as I did the walk of fame.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I went home. My wife was there, and she asked me how my visit was. I told her everything you read up above. She was happy for me. I felt great about it the next day. I’m writing this while it is still fresh in my mind, and it is arousing me all over again. I can’t wait to see her again, which is in a few days.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my wife and another female friend. My wife was excited and happy for me, but my female friend was jealous, as she is in a bit of a drought herself.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Having hours of her undivided attention. And that grilled cheese was delicious also.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? We both wanted to spend the entire day together but could not.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I’ve always been very open minded. Having positive experiences just proves to me more that married couples can have casual sex outside their marriage.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? It was a great way to spend a Monday.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? My wife and I have opened up our marriage and allowed ourselves to explore and experience new things together and separately. While there is a learning curve, we have had way more positive experiences than negative and even learned to support each other in an entirely new way.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think this is a great place for people to share their thoughts and ideas without the worry of being judged. I do wish stories would post a little quicker and there was a way to be notified when they are posted.
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