What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 23
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 15
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
How long ago did this hookup happen? One year ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I saw him sitting with friends when I entered the bar. He looked amazing, handsome, well dressed with his big dark eyes. He was like totally out of my league, I thought at the beginning. But after a while, he asked me and my friend to join them.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It begins before we took a taxi back home, we took one instead of two. We didn’t plan it, it just happened.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Oral, vaginal actually many new stuff I didn’t try before. I felt amazing, he was more than good. First time, I felt so free during it. Everything was so simple with him like we knew everything about our bodies.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Next day was really funny, it wasn’t awkward at all. We both thought it will be one night stand, but we couldn’t resist. So we proceeded as fuck buddies who became friends, and we still are but without benefits now. It’s possible.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, To feel more confident, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? To my best friend. She said that if I’m happy that’s fine.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was easy, no strings attached.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That it had to end.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, it did. I think I got really lucky because I got hooked up with a great guy, but still, girls need to be careful when it comes to casual sex. Also, I got more confident in bed.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? You can manage to have sex without fillings, but you are many times judged by society.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It has played a big role in my life, changed the way I want to have sex now, without faking anything. I wish society stopped thinking about women who do that that they are sluts.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s amazing and I hope it will change something.
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