A Long Time Coming

by Q
Gender: female

Age: 20
Race/ethnicity: White
Location: Bay Area
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
Occupation: dog handler
Religious affiliation: none
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none


A Long Time Coming

How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 years

How would you best classify this hookup? fuck buddies

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He had olive skin and light green eyes, thick dark hair and perfect teeth. I met him at a Halloween show and saw him in secrecy for quite a while. He was older than me and rode a motorcycle; the quintessential man for a teenage girl. He painted, drank his whiskey neat, and was incredibly intelligent.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I knew the moment I spoke to him that something was going to happen between us. I danced with him at a show in the city, and we promptly started making out in the venue. He was hot as hell but it wasn’t until a week or two later when I visited his apartment that we had sex.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? When I met him, I was still discovering myself sexually in terms of what I like and want. I had previous partners but they weren’t as experienced as him, and it was mostly awkward fumbling. He, on the other hand, was fantastic. He went down on me every time, he introduced me to new sex positions, and he gave me the strongest orgasms I’d ever had. We would lay naked in his bed for hours and talk about everything and anything. Eventually, things got shifty between the two of us. I was lying about my age, and the fact that I was clearly not as adult as I’d wished I was or pretended to be. I was sneaking around to see him, and he soon realized that something was off with the way we saw each other. When he did find out my age, he graciously declined to keep seeing me. Honestly, I don’t blame him for that. I’d have done the same.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? I was tested semi regularly, and we discussed it.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I ask myself that question all the time. Mainly I think it was to open myself sexually and feel independent.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Sometimes we would smoke weed or have a drink or two, but it wasn’t anything centered on getting fucked up.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I spent a long time afterwards feeling extremely guilty for lying to the guy, and for carrying on the lies as long as I did. However, we continued to be friends, and still talk occasionally. I don’t expect to ever hook up with him again in the future, but I’m glad he’s a respectful and kind guy.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I only told one person: my best friend. She didn’t really react much, given we were prone to phases. But she did keep my secret for me, and cover for me when I went to see him.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? absolutely.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? At first I did, but I’ve come to terms with it and look back on it fondly.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing about the hookup was the orgasms. It made me realize how amazing sex can be when done with the right person and feel fulfilled and tingly all over.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

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