A Room In Italy

by Sam Conover

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 22
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Boston
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Wiccan / Pagan
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Gay/lesbian
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 8
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

A Room In Italy

How long ago did this hookup happen? 9 months

What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (open)

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met Dee on tinder while we were both studying abroad in Italy. They’re tall, with long dark curly hair, amazing eyebrows, and really beautiful blue eyes. We had hooked up a few times previous to this particular event.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We went out drinking with a few of their friends. It was a really long night, and I don’t remember all of what we did. But by the time we got back to their place, I was really hoping their roommate wasn’t home because I was really tired and drunk and I was scared to walk home. She wasn’t there, so Dee invited me to stay the night. Initially, I didn’t think we were going to hook up.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We were laying in bed together and they started playing with my clit. It felt like they were just gently touching me for hours until they whispered in my ear, “God, I could tease you forever.” We fucked around for a while and then at some point they asked me if I would sit on their face. As soon as I did, I could hear my phone ringing. I knew it was my girlfriend back home worried about me but I didn’t care.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? It was honestly the best sex of my life. I was so satisfied and so happy. I did feel terrible about not answering my girlfriend’s call. At this point, I knew I wanted to end things with her, especially since I had started to have feelings for Dee. I broke up with my girlfriend the day after this hook up.

If we were in a different situation, I would have hoped for some kind of future with Dee, but being abroad, and having just gotten out of a relationship, and both of us returning to opposite sides of America, I had no real expectations. I’m still kinda hung up on them.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) No penetrative sex happened

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I wasn’t able to tell anyone about it because of my guilt about emotionally cheating on my girlfriend.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The thrill of feeling so detached from my head and my thoughts as they just played with my clit for so long and the feeling of their long hair on my face.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The guilt over emotionally cheating.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes. Dee completely helped me learn to enjoy casual sex. It was not something I thought I could do before them.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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