Adding A Fourth



What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 52
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Palm springs
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? RN
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 50+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 7

Adding A Fourth

How long ago did this hookup happen? 25 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met M in a chat room. She was talking to someone about how she was having some of her girlfriends over for hot tub and wine. I interjected that I’d love to join that group. She instant messaged me and asked what I meant by that. I told her I was just kidding and since she probably lived half way across the country it wouldn’t happen anyway. We talked some more, and it turned out she only lived about a half hour away. We talked a bit over the next few days. I asked how her party on the hot tub went and she said it was a bust because the heater in her hot tub broke. I told her she could come over and use mine if she wanted. She took me up on it and came over that night.
M was a little older than me. I was 27 she was 30. She was about 5 ft 7 and muscular. She worked for an enforcement agency and carried a gun. That worried me a little, but she had nice tits.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? She came over that night. She asked where to change. I told her I usually went without, but if she preferred I could put some on. She said to put some on. Guess that didn’t work. We got in the tub with some wine and talked about what we did etc. Eventually, we started making out and took it inside.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end?  We sat on the couch and I began feeling her breasts then sucking on her nipples. I pulled her bathing suit bottom off and began fingering her. I made her cum then got between her legs and started licking her pussy and clit. I moved up to penetrate and she said: “not without a condom” (I hate condoms). I ran upstairs, got one, and put it on. I spread her legs and pushed in. We had a nice fuck as I sucked her tits and felt her cum as I sucked and fucked. I unloaded into the condom. We laid joined together until I shrank up and fell out. When I looked down, the condom was nowhere to be seen. I reached into her and pulled the condom out.
I disposed of the condom and took her into my arms. I knew she wasn’t happy about the condom and as I kissed her and played with her breasts and fingered her pussy I kept sweet talking her until she relaxed. I then asked if she wanted to get it on again. We went at it without a condom a couple more times before she had to go.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I added M to my ladies making her the 4th. At times, I think she suspected that I had something else on the side, but she could never prove it. At one point she got a little pissy about it and I told her to fuck off. She didn’t have any claims on me and so I left her. A few weeks later she called and apologized and asked if she could come over. I put her back in the rotation. Each of the ladies was getting some time from me about 1-2 times a week unless an opening suddenly came up then one of them might get 3 times unless I fit a new lady in.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Thought it was an important experience to have, Power / Dominance, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Adding a fourth with regular sex but with different ladies every night

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Juggling 4 ladies

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? no

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? My four ladies with the 7 others that I fit in over a 2 year period was the most sexually fulfilling time I had. None of the ladies were outstanding in every way. Some sucked really good but were just okay fucks, another might have been a great fuck but didn’t suck very well. Each had their strong and weak points.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I loved casual sex

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great idea

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