by Ryan D
What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 29
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? North America
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Slut
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? more than 120
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1
Blonde Beauty at High School Party
How long ago did this hookup happen? 13 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was hot in a party girl kind of way. She was blond, with smoky blue eyes and a killer body. She clearly worked out. She was a bit drunk and was having a lot of fun. She did have a pretty great ass though and she knew it, wearing a red minidress that showed that ass and cleavage. We got talking and flirting at a party.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We got talking and flirting at a party. Then, we started drunkenly making out on the dance floor for a while. You know, the usual thing before a hookup. I just wanted to be a bit more careful, because I didn’t want my current girlfriend or any of her friends (though she did say they wouldn’t come to this one). So, we moved to a dark corner and I kept running my hands over her as we made out. The danger of possibly being caught only added to the thrill. Then, after giving her a hickey, I took her up to one of the rooms and we got down to the fucking.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We were like animals, tearing off at each other clothes. She had a black bra and thong. Clearly, she was a naughty girl. I ripped them off her and started playing with her breasts, which were relatively small, but perky. We did everything, from me eating her soft pussy out to her sucking me off. I gave her a rim job, after which we did anal, using my spit as a lubricant. Finally, we had sex in several different positions. Thankfully, I had brought several condoms with me since I expected to hook up here. She was a real squirter, and squirted while moaning loudly nearly half a dozen times. We then cleaned up and went to my place (Good things my parents are rarely around). I fucked her again, and then we slept
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I woke up to her sucking my cock. I waited until she finished and then tasted my cum on her lips. Nothing turned me on faster and we had great morning sex and I ate her out. We finally took a shower together, where we had sex again. We had a fuck buddy relationship for a couple of years, and we had sex in all sorts of places, from public bathrooms to malls to even a grocery store. We constantly had to sneak around which made it all the more fun. Ultimately, she caught feelings for me and we had to break up.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Intoxication, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, Power / Dominance, Everyone else was/is doing it, Boredom, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish, Hallucinogens (LSD, mushrooms, DMT…)
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A few of my friends. They were enthusiastic, though a couple rolled their eyes. They knew how I was
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? She did ultimately catch feelings for me and I had to reject her. Also, I cheated on my girlfriend, so there’s that. I felt a bit bad, but I’d done it before and I knew I’d do it again.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? She was pretty hot and the sex was pretty good.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Not much, except that I was cheating and we had to end it.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? This was the trajectory for a lot of my relationships. A random hookup/ one-night stand, that developed either into a short fling or a fuck buddy relationship. Hence, in general, not really
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Honestly, when I look back, I was an asshole for cheating and for letting this girl on. In my obsessive need for sex, I could be a real tool. I cheated on a lot of my relationships in high school and college and I regret that. I’ve tried to make amends and even apologized to a few of them, including her. She didn’t mind it that much
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I’ve been thinking a lot and am glad of how I’ve changed. Experiences like these, which I’ve often enjoyed, made me realize I can’t be monogamous. Its also reinforced my love for casual sex in general.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great
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