Both Married

by Maria

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 30
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? Philippines
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Analyst
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? I know what I want
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 9
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

Both Married

How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 mos

What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was a friend from grade school until high school. We did hooked up about 5years ago. He picked me up from office. It was exciting.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He messaged me in facebook took my number and texted me. The next he asked if we could meet and fuck again.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We kissed heavily in the beginning, it was too sensual. I gave him a blow job and he sucked on my nipples. When he entered me he hugged me tightly and told me he missed me. It was so intense, his cock is huge and made me squirt. His thrust is so intense and satisfying. After every hook up he would tell me how he have a huge crush on me back then. He dropped me off from where he picked me up.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Before parting, he told me he’ll text me on when we will me again. After three days he were fucking again. I wished we were both available when we met because I believe we have something special together. I would gladly hook up with him again if will be given a chance.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? None

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? We were sexually compatible, I get what I want and he gets what needs to be returned.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? None

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? We have hooked up before when he was still single. I thought it was over but then he reconnected with me and I havd this unsual desire for him which is why we hooked up again.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It nothing to me just sex

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Its cool I get to tell my story

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