What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 42
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? UK
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Manager
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Sensual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 30+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1
Boxing Day Quickie
How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I have written about Abi before. She is about 5 ft 4, with dark long hair, pretty big brown inviting eyes and a curvy figure that she usually (unfortunately) hides away. She has especially nice breasts, which are large and still quite perky (she was in her early 30’s at this time). We met via work and had instant chemistry.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We’d hooked up for the first time a few days after we’d first met, before Christmas. We texted each other regularly, and she was happy to meet me, even though she knew I was married. On this day, I was running errands which would take me near to her place, and she was alone and house-sitting. She joked about me coming over that afternoon. I said I could come over, even if I had only an hour or so to spare. She readily agreed as we’d both enjoyed our previous hook-up, and we were both horny.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I turned up at the house she was staying at. We very quickly ended up in the bedroom – we didn’t want to waste time – and clothes came off. We made out, and I started kissing her neck – it always drove her wild, as did kissing and sucking on her nipples – and it was something that I loved to do.
She suggested 69, something that I had never done before. I can still picture her as she lifted her leg over my head and I got a close-up view of her pussy, glistening with a film of her own juices. Never have I met anyone who got so turned on and was so orgasmic. I was soon lapping at her and inserting fingers as she took me into her mouth. In truth, her oral technique was not the best as every time she came – and that was every minute or so, she involuntarily stopped sucking me, raised her head and stiffened her body. But I was happy to keep going and make her come time after time.
After we had done this for a while, I put on a condom and she mounted me and rode me. I liked her being on top as I had a magnificent view of her perfect breasts, and she liked me sucking on her nipples. I told her to use me as she again came several times, with me raising my hips to get deeper inside her. Eventually, we swapped to missionary and I was able to cum inside her (in the condom) after she had come yet again. We laid there for a while before I had to take a shower and leave to drive home. It was a wonderful Christmas present for us both!
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We continued to message and hook up. On and off this arrangement lasted for over 4 years. It started out as pure sexual pleasure for us both, then grew into an affair and then into something more serious. However, for various reasons, it didn’t work out between us in the end. Part of me will always love her but I think things have worked out for the best for us both. We occasionally still email each other secretly. She’s happy in a relationship now and I’m happy for her.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one specifically about this hookup.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? 69 was a new experience! The subversive and naughty nature of the hookup on Boxing Day. The sex was (always) amazing.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That I was cheating on my wife.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It showed me that casual sex could be so good so quickly with the right partner.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I still miss the sex with her!
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex can be an ego boost, a release or even life-affirming. If it goes well of course. But it can also be hurtful or degrading if it doesn’t go well. Thankfully my experiences have been positive, apart from getting emotionally hurt from getting too involved. But I deserved what I got in that regard.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s a great project and I like reading the real stories of other people. Not all of them are convincingly real but most seem to be.
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