What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 22
What’s your race/ethnicity? Middle Eastern
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? Delhi
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Housewife
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Muslim
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 months
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Around 6 feet, well built masculine Haryanvi guy. He is a state level athlete. I knew about him as I had seen him at many college events. Though I met him months later when a classmate he was dating introduced us. He had this mysterious aura and didn’t smile much. I was instantly attracted to him.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We had stayed in contact for the following week and he asked me to accompany him to an event in his college. We stayed there for about an hour after which we decided to go to a coffee shop. But he needed to take his keys and wallet so he grabbed my hand and we walked to his place which was just a few minutes away. I had not planned on hooking up as I was already engaged but somehow ended up in his bed.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He was a bit dominating but gentle too. He didn’t ask for a yes or no, just grabbed my neck and kissed me. It was my first time so, he took it slow. I loved how he took the lead. He came inside me accidentally. We had sex twice that day. He brought me an emergency pill and afterward, dropped me off at the metro station. We did all the kinky stuff later.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We are still in touch and maintain a physical relationship. I couldn’t cut contact with him even after my marriage. I love the sex we have which I don’t get from my husband.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Plan B / Emergency contraception
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively negative
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? He made me do things I thought I won’t ever do. I feel wanted.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I fell for him hard and haven’t moved on from him since then. He refuses to use protection or pull out and threatens to cut contact if I get too demanding of him. He knows that I love him but doesn’t care at all. Plus, I feel guilty about cheating on my husband who loves and respects me.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I don’t think I’ll ever be able to get over him. I tried repeating the same things I did with him with my husband but I feel forced and repulsed. I have blocked his number several times only to unblock him again.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? As someone who belongs to an extremely conservative family, sex has always been a taboo subject. I was married very early and wasn’t allowed to be friends with boys. If my family wasn’t this narrow-minded, things might have been different for me.
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