What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 29
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? London
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Engineer
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Keeping options open
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 16
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1
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How long ago did this hookup happen? A month ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? N is a girl I have known for years. We used to hang around a lot in my early 20s, in fact, I lost my virginity with her. We grew distant because she moved away and I got married. She has now moved back and we still hang out occasionally, but my wife is jealous of her, so we don’t see each other often. About a month ago, I went around her flat to see her while my wife was visiting her parents. I went around really excited as I hadn’t seen her in a long time and I knew we had all evening together without her boyfriend or my wife.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I knew she was free and I knew my wife was away that night, and so we planned to meet at her place. We both wanted each other, it had been so long.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? At first, we just talked as we hadn’t seen each other in months. Most of the evening we just sat in her front room chatting and catching up. At one point she went to make me a coffee and I kissed her on the neck and squeezed her bum a bit, but we went back to the front room. After a couple of hours, we had a hug as she was saying how much she missed me. We looked into each other’s eyes and something snapped. We started passionately kissing. I kissed her on the lips, over her neck and cheeks and then dropped to the floor between her legs. I kissed her inner thigh and worked up her leg, past her boobs to her lips again. She took my shirt off and I opened her dressing gown. She had a very sexy red bra and knickers on, I took the bra off and gently licked her nipples while holding her with both hands. I buried my head into her boobs as she has lovely big ones, they smelt gorgeous too. I pulled her knickers to one side and started kissing her next to her vagina. It was already wet and she wanted me in there. I teased her with my tongue and slowly started pushing my tongue into her clit. She was rocking and moaning with pleasure which made me even harder. She pushed me away and pulled at my belt and jeans to get them off. She took my, by now, throbbing cock out my boxers and took it in her mouth. I rubbed her clit with my fingers while she sucked away on me. She wanted me inside her and I couldn’t wait now either, I slid inside her vagina with my rock hard self and fucked her on her sofa. She was humping me back as she was so horny. I picked her up and we started fucking on the floor. I then pulled out and went down on her, madly licking at her clit. She came and she was practically strangling me by pulling my face into her wet pussy. We lay in each other’s arms on the floor for a bit then I was back inside her fucking her as hard as I could. She rode me back, so much so my back was getting friction burn from the carpet. I came inside her as she loves me creaming her vagina. We spent the next hour or so cuddling naked, it was amazing.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Didnt feel guilty, I was just looking forward to fucking her again.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, IUD (Intrauterine device)
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Haven’t told anyone because I’m married
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The feeling of having vaginal sex with someone willing to have a good time.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I couldn’t stay there and fuck her again.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No its just made me look forward to seeing her again.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? It was awesome hopefully can meet her again but its tricky as she and I are not single.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I have had casual sex many times with men and women, it’s my hobby
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s nice to hear about other peoples experiences
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