Cheating with an Old Flame

by Ginger

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 22
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Texas
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Cheating with an Old flame

How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 months

What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We had dated a little bit months before but had no chemistry together. It became clear we only had extreme chemistry and compatibility physically. We met at work and it had been a long time between our previous hookup and this occasion.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was with my boyfriend for about six months and I loved him deeply. We were living together but he rarely wanted to have sex and if he did it was quick. He would go to sleep much earlier and he was asleep when I started causally texting this friend, Brian. Brian and I started innocently reminiscing about the time we dated. And then started reminiscing about our hot sex. I told him about the problems with my current boyfriend and he playfully told me he could help me. I was flirty but I did not intend to cheat and for a few weeks we would just sext after my boyfriend went to sleep. I would send him nudes with my sleeping boyfriend in the background. Eventually my boyfriend went out of town and I knew I would finally meet up with Brian – I asked him to basically meet up and fuck.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He picked me up and drove around looking for a place to park while I went down on him. He parked and I immediately took off my clothes while he unbuttoned his jeans. Then I got on top of him and he fuck me until he came in my mouth. It all happened fairly quickly and then we just hung out at friends. We kept cheating until my boyfriend moved away and now we just occasionally hook up.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt a little guilty but the sneaking around and guilt was also a huge turn on. I felt like I wanted more. I feel fine about Brian now but in no way do I want him as much as I did while we snuck around.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Submission / Relinquishing power

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The feeling when he pushed inside of me for the first time after all the sexting and teasing.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Lying to my boyfriend.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I’m definitely nervous about being in a different monogamous relationship as I think cheating is such a turn on I won’t be able to resist and I’ll eventually get caught.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

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