What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 42
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? The Netherlands, Amsterdam
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Teacher
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Gay/lesbian
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 9
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0


How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We met on a dating site, she seemed nice and easy to talk to. She was flirtatious which I liked.
She looked like a tough girl with a nice smile. We decided to meet within a week of meeting online

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? First time we met we were talking and flirting. She first kissed me in the bar and later outside we did some serious kissing. She wanted to come home with me but I said I didn’t have sex on a first date. The next day she came to my house and we hardly talked but started kissing and having sex.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We kissed, she squeezed my nipples with was painful but also exciting, we stimulated our own and each others clitoris, we fucked using our fingers in various positions, we fucked with a dildo, we licked each others pussy, 69, she spanked my butt. It was extremely exciting and went on all night, sometimes falling a sleep a little and then continuing. We both loved it and could hardly stop. I had never had such an intense sexual experience like that, I totally let myself go and she did the same. We met perhaps 10 times and after that it kind of faded away, we were never interested in more than sex from each other, and we both were attracted/in love with other women.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt like a million bucks.
I hoped to see her more often to have more sex. I never saw a future with her but when I look back I’m thankful to her to make me feel connected with this sexual side of me.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, To feel more confident

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Just to a couple of friends, I wasn’t very open about having this kind of casual sex so I only told friends that wouldn’t judge me

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Experiencing my sexual self again, feeling like a wanted woman, trying many new things and not expecting to marry her

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? When we were using a few dildo’s I was insecure to talk about safe sex so I didn’t and we shared the same toys, knowing what I know now I would have used a condom

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, it got me in touch with my sexuality much more, and made me more open to try

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I always have a smile when I think back

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Right now I wouldn’t feel good with casual sex anymore. Because it does feel more shallow than sex in a committed relationship. But knowing myself and my libido, if I would be totally single I might change my opinion

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s very interesting, I like the openness of talking about sex this way

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!