First Gay Experience



What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 51
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Howell, Michigan
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Private
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 10
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

First Gay Experience

How long ago did this hookup happen? 15 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I had no idea what he looked like until our first sexual encounter. We had chatted online a few times, that was the extent of our knowledge of each other.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I knew he was gay and he knew I was interested in experimenting with a man for the first time. After a few times talking online, he invited me over. He said if I wasn’t interested once I got there, he wouldn’t put any pressure on me and wouldn’t be offended if I left. I agreed to meet him that day at his place.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? When I got there, he was a very good looking young Filipino guy. He had candles lit and tried to make me as comfortable as he could, though I was still a nervous wreck. He took his time and never rushed me. We kissed, made out, started feeling each other up. Clothes started coming off, and I was noticeably shaking. He said we could stop at any time, but I told him I wanted to go through with it. He laid me on my back, pulled my underwear off and began sucking me. It was such a strange feeling having a man’s body next to mine. Not great, just odd. Eventually, he asked if I wanted to try, and I told him I did. Sucking a dick was nothing like I thought it would be like. Even though I have a dick, I kept thinking a dick in my mouth would feel hard like a carrot. I also thought I could fit his whole dick in my mouth, even though he was kinda small. I was wrong. I tried to rely on what the best blow jobs I got were like, and tried to reproduce that. Apparently it worked, as he was moaning pretty good. We then started mutual sucking, and oh my God that was good! I started to climax pretty quickly after that. When I did, he squeezed my ass and pulled me into him so hard. I pretty much started feeling regret right away, but I didn’t want to be uncordial. He came quickly after that, and I forced some of his semen down my throat, though I spit a lot of it out on the floor when he wasn’t looking. Absolutely hated it. I still enjoyed the experience immensely. I honestly didn’t know if I should kiss him goodbye when I left, but I figured it would be rude if I didn’t. I did and it was the best, most passionate kiss I’ve ever had.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We had each other’s emails. He contacted me a couple of days later and asked how I was doing. Wanted to know if I wanted to hook up again. We did, and he topped me the next encounter. I was really hoping it would turn into a regular thing, but the third time he only wanted me to blow him and leave – same with the fourth time. I didn’t contact him after that.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I have only ever told one person, and she didn’t have much of a reaction either way, as she’s bi and has a very open kink fetish.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Sex without strings for the first time

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I kinda wanted to continue for a while, but he quickly turned it into a blow and go for himself

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I’d still love one more time with him

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