But First I Need to Take a Shower…



What’s your gender? Female
How old are you? 28
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your current relationship status? Solo polyamorous
Religious affiliation: Atheist
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 5
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 2

But First I Need to Take a Shower…

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 weeks

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s tall, white, bald-headed, always carries a grin on his face which makes him irresistible. He’s my colleague so I know him pretty well. We’ve hooked up before, but it was a while ago, so I was glad it finally happened again. Before this hookup, my feelings towards him were a bit mixed – I find him absolutely irresistible yet I was disappointed we hadn’t hooked up in a while although I wanted to.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I had actually thought about hooking up on this particular night, yet I hadn’t told him or planned this in any way. That day, we had been very active, doing some team building activities out in the woods, which was funny, because we had fantasized about having sex in the woods. When it was time to go home, I told him he could stop by my house. He told me “OK, but first I need to take a shower.” I needed one as well so I agreed.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He warned me we wouldn’t make it to my bed – he was already hard when he undressed to get in the shower. We took a shower together. We started making out immediately, it was very passionate and ‘natural’. Then he lifted me up against the wall and started fingering me from behind. He got inside me, but I warned him we had to use protection. So we got out of the shower and went to my bed. There he put me in the doggy position, licked me hard, then started fucking me good. As I was getting in a trance, he pulled me out of it by telling me, “LOOK!” I opened my eyes, and looked in the mirror, and it looked just as good as it felt. Then he turned me around, and we did a few different positions in front of the mirror. Then I got on top of him and I noticed I lasted a lot longer than I used to (without getting out of breath), as I’ve been working out a lot lately. He was loving it, and his usual grin turned into an expression of ecstasy. Then, he told me to sit still and started fucking me good, from underneath me. I don’t really like it when I’m on top and the man still tries to take control, but in this case it was really good so I let him! Eventually he told me to lie on my stomach and put my head in the pillow, and he fucked me from behind. He came, loudly.

Afterwards, we talked a little while still on the bed about how great it is to fuck in front of a mirror because we both really like to watch ourselves (having sex, but also just in general). Then, we got dressed and went outside to smoke a cigarette, which was actually my first ‘after sex cigarette’, and we talked some more about work and our colleagues. There was no sexual undertone at all, which is what I like so much about our “thing” – it feels really comfortable because there’s no constant pressure to talk about sex.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Afterwards, when he left, I was literally dancing around the house, playing loud music, and I felt amazing. My last casual sex experience was just 2 days earlier and it was completely disappointing, and I was so glad to realize that was just an “incident” and I can still really enjoy uncomplicated sex.

I’m still positive about it now. I see him all the time, we’ve had a few sexually tainted conversations (as we always do), and I’m pretty sure we’ll hook up again soon. I’m very excited about this. I am also very happy with the fact we’ve cleared up confusions about what this is – as much as I crave him, it’s just physical and I will never confuse this with love so there’s no danger of feelings getting involved.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), To feel better about myself, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one, actually!

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone.

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was fantastic and very satisfying in the way I needed it to be at that moment. Plus, I finally got to hook up again with a man I had wanted for months.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? N/A

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? My attitude towards casual sex was already positive, but my last experience was overall disappointing. This hookup more than compensated for that!

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I want to do this again!

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex has provided me with the chance to experiment with sex while being single, as my sex life was far from satisfying while I was still in a relationship. I’m very happy with this option and I think, as long as you’re in control of it every step of the way, other people can also use it to their advantage in this way.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Fantastic! I keep coming back to this site 😉

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!