My First Time Was A Tinder Hookup



What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 18
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Full time student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

My First Time Was A Tinder Hookup

How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 months

What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met this guy on tinder, had almost no idea what he looked like. He said he was in a band, and that got me kind of hot. I knew him only about a week before we actually met, but we had sexted every night that week. I was sort of infatuated with him, given that this was going to be my first time doing anything other than blowies and over the pants rubbing. He had a really nice dick, mouthwatering. When I actually met him, it was at about 9pm, and his face could only be seen in the tinny overhead light from his car. Still kind of don’t know (or remember) what he looks like.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? There was a lot of planning. We had to work around the fact that he could only come to me (I have no idea how to drive!) and he lived about 30 minutes away from me. Finally one night we decided enough was enough, and we had to meet each other. I remember being so excited that I made myself cum twice before he even got there.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He picked me up and we drove to an old church right around the corner from where I lived (I remember saying something like “What better place to sin than right before God himself”) and it was super awkward! I didn’t say his name once throughout the entire exchange, but it was one of the best things to happen to me. So we pulled into the church and he parked his SUV and we just kinda sat there for a sec, and the air was so charged, my heart was pounding and I was beyond ready. And then he just kinda leaned over the center console and kissed me, hard and heavy. He reached his hand into my pants and just sort of went for it, and I was so wet haha. He fingered me for a bit in the front seat before moving to the back and it was all hurried, a lot of excitement. There was a lot of kissing and giggling, for two people who didn’t know each other. So I sucked him for a while and he fingered me, and he was so turned on that he came only a few minutes in. While he recovered, he fingered me and we kissed and it was really intimate. Then, he went to the front for a condom and we started having a conversation (about the condoms lmao) and I think that was the nicest part about whatever we had, is that we talked and joked like good friends, and made sex fun and not so serious. At this point I’m ready to go, like I can’t wait any longer, and he gets on top of me and says, “You ready?” And for a hookup it was really sweet. So we start fucking and I’m freaking out that my cherry’s going to pop (he doesn’t know I’m a virgin) and that it’s going to feel like someone is tearing me apart, but none of that happened. (Probably because I’ve been an avid masturbator since I was 10) It was kind of amazing, and he got me so close to coming more than one time (I didn’t come because he wasn’t going fast enough for me to, but I was too shy to say anything). So we’re nearing the end of the first of many adventures with each other and he asks me where he should come. I’m kind of into facials, but he politely declined, so I said my mouth and I remember lying there with him towering above me, and he started to play with me again and he said “You’re so fucking hot”. I remember almost coming right there because the way he said it, so breathless and he was jerking himself off to me, he was going to come because of me. It was one of the first times someone had called me hot like that, and it just got to me. So he comes in my mouth, and I swallow, then we just lay there. He showed me some of his music and it remains to be one of the greatest sexual experiences I’ve ever had.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? He took me home, then the next day, he texted me asking when we could meet up again. I was so excited, so we hooked up three more times within the next month or so. I think maybe a part of me wanted to see if we could be something mcondomsore than hook ups, but I got the vibe early on that that wasn’t what he was looking for. I’m still happy though, about our relationship, even if it only consisted of sex and small talk. He seems like a great guy, and I’m happy my first time was with him.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Thought it was an important experience to have, Submission / Relinquishing power

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Marijuana, hashish

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friend who lives in Canada, and my closest friend at home. They were both really happy for me, happy to hear that someone ALMOST made me come.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Our chemistry. We laughed and enjoyed each other’s bodies, it was an amazing time.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing really, other than the fact that he declined to give me my first facial.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not really. I was always into the idea of hooking up, not being tied down to one person sexually. I love sex and the way sex really brings people together, especially in a space where one is stripped bare, mentally and physically.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? If the person I’m talking about is reading this, just know that I did have a lot of fun, and I really enjoyed what we had while it lasted.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Hooking up is kind of frowned upon, especially for girls, and I wish that it wasn’t. I’m allowed to enjoy myself and there shouldn’t be a wrong or right way on how I do it, as long as the participants are consenting and into it. I’m not a slut or a whore because I love sex.

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