First Time Without Hubby



What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 41
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Boston
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? R.N.
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Adventuresome
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 12-15
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None – my husband has

First Time Without Hubby

How long ago did this hookup happen? 12 years or so

What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (open)

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? This hookup was with my husband’s best friend. Barry is 5’10” and 225lbs. He has black hair and grayish eyes. His cock is 7”. We’d been friends for years and my husband knew when we started hooking up but his wife did not. It was something that I never thought we’d be involved in. Sometimes I felt guilty about it but I loved it too much to stop. I also loved Barry as a close friend and trusted him deeply. Something almost always happened when he was over but my husband was always there either watching or joining in.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Barry definitely instigated it. He stopped by for a beer one day when Scott was at work. He was over our house a lot so this wasn’t unusual.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We started talking and when he sat back his cock was plainly in view. When I pointed it out he said something like, “it’s not like you haven’t seen it before” and we both laughed. We knew something was going to happen but we were both a little nervous because we had never played without Scott being around. I got us a couple more beers and when I got back he had taken his gym shorts off. He didn’t have underwear on. I sat down next to him and slowly started playing with his cock. He turned to me and gave me a very romantic kiss as I slid to the floor. As I did so he pulled my top off. I played with him some more and started licking his balls. As I knelt there he started playing with my tits and nipples. In the past, we always seemed to be in a rush but I felt like we didn’t have to this time. I sucked the head of his cock while jerking him at the same time. I brought him to the edge a couple of times but wouldn’t let him cum. Then, I stood up and took off everything else. He stood up, kissed me and started fingering me. He then sat me down on the couch and knelt between my legs. He’d play with my clit while licking me and then finger me as well. I loved every second of it and probably forgot I was even married at this point. He also brought me right to the edge. When he stopped I was going crazy. At that point, I stood up, grabbed his hand, and guided him to our bedroom. I layed down and this time, he lifted my legs, moved up, and slid his cock into me. Soon he was fucking me hard and I was moaning and screaming. After a while, he stopped and turned me over so he could take me from behind and it wasn’t long before I came. Barry hadn’t yet so we changed positions and I blew him some more. He likes it rougher then Scott so I jerked him harder until he finally came in my mouth. We lay there both feeling incredibly good but without Scott around I was starting to feel a little guilty. We spent the afternoon doing it all over. I climaxed a couple of times and Barry came in me. We finally looked at the time and he said he’d better get going. We both got dressed and he left.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Right after he left I felt a little guilty and wasn’t sure if I should tell Scott or not. I wasn’t sure how’d he react. I told him when he got home that evening, and he was very excited about it. We went to the bedroom and fucked and sucked into the night. I knew it wasn’t going to be a problem in the future.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Sterilization

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my hub later that day and it excited him. I also told my best friend about. She knows we’ve hooked up in the past and wanted to know everything.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was the first time we had ever played alone. It was different without Scott around, a little more intense and with more of a connection.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Some guilt at first because my hub wasn’t there.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No way!

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? It led to many more occasions to this very day.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s great that so many have an attitude similar to mine.

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