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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 47
What’s your race/ethnicity? East Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? Tokyo
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Consultant
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 50
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? Ten years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? M was a girl I met online. She lived in New York with her boyfriend. He had a big fishtank. She’s a Russian girl, blonde, slim, quite beautiful with sharp chin, 5’7″ or so. I thought she was hot and didn’t know about the bf prior to meeting her.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The hookup happened due to weed. She wanted to smoke, I had some. I forget who instigated, probably just happened. Went to her apartment.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I get to her/his apartment and we start smoking. Little chit chat. Then she invites me over to the bedroom, which felt strange with the guy in the living room. We start making out, after a while it turned into an oral session, her blowing me, me going down on her, 69. Then we took a break for another smoke and went to intercourse. M was sexually quite open, so was already touching herself prior to entering her. I fingered her for a while, making sure she was ready. Then I went inside her missionary, doggy, her on top. Then it was back to missionary when I started fingering her again, but this time, after a few minutes, also inserted my penis along with my finger so that while I fucked her with my penis, the finger stimulated other areas inside her along with the other fingers her clitoris and surrounding areas. That really got her going and we fucked like animals til we both came. There wasn’t much talking, just fucking.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Didn’t feel much apart from it being quite fun. We saw each other maybe fives times after this, same deal, sometimes involved cocaine. We don’t keep in touch any more, so I have no feelings for her.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Intoxication
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? We didn’t care, so it was a good place for experimenting.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? There was no emotional connection.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Sexuality comes in many shapes and sizes.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? The weird thing was the bf. He was always around, so I have a feeling he was enjoying his gf being fucked, or was watching.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think it’s a good release, a warm up to something more intimate. Or a place to experiment.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s a good outlet
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