by Petals
Gender: Female

Age: 30
Race/ethnicity: Asian
Location: Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Writer
Religious affiliation: Muslim
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? Zero


How long ago did this hookup happen? 2012

How would you best classify this hookup? Booty call

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met him on Blendr. We started chatting and turns out he is in an open marriage. He was a French expat living in Kuala Lumpur.  He was tall, dark hair with hints of grey. Lean figure, not particularly muscular.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We chatted for a bit, most of the time being dirty chats and then agreed to meet for drinks to kinda see if there was a connection. We met at a two-story bar near his apartment. At the two-story bar, he took me to the second level where it was really empty as it was a weeknight. We ordered wine and I started asking him questions about his marriage. He and his wife have been in an open marriage for quite some time. They would sleep with other people until one of them felt a bit insecure or their hook ups developed into something more. They would take a break for a few months and continue swinging. From his story, I gathered that he was very committed to his marriage- they had 2 kids.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We chatted and he started grabbing my breasts. He then put his hand under my dress and started fingering me. I slipped my hand in his trousers to stroke his cock. He then gets off his seat and starts to go down on me. I’m siting in this booth in a bar, with my legs wide open and this guy is going down on me. He made me come a few times. He gets up…then walks away and not much later returns to our booth and asks me to follow him. He takes me to the back of the 2nd floor, whips his cock out and asks me to suck it. I did and he came in my mouth. We left the bar and he messaged me later saying when he got home his wife had asked him how our ‘date’ went. He took out his cock and showed her the lipstick marks i left on his cock- she then sucked his cock to clean away my lipstick marks.

After that we would hook up at his condo when the wife was out hooking up with other guys. His kids would be asleep and he would have to sneak me in. We would fuck on the bed that he sleeps with his wife. I loved it. I enjoyed the feeling of fucking a guy on the bed that he shares with his wife. We always dirty talked during sex. He would call me his whore and I loved it. I would beg him to pull my hair and spank my ass as he fucked me from behind. This one time, he was dying to fuck me but couldn’t take me home as his wife was there. So, he picked me up, we went back to his condo and fucked in the stairwell. His wife had once asked for a threesome but I refused. I told him I’d rather not meet the wife. He tried a few more times to make this threesome happen. He was a good fuck. Started gently and then slowly getting rough. It ended because the wife was starting to get insecure of my hook-ups with him. She still wanted a threesome but no longer wanted him to hook up with me. I can’t deny that he and I were definitely very sexually compatible.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We both shared our recent STI test results and were both clear of any STI. We always used a condom when fucking.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I just wanted to have a regular sex partner.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? I would smoke a joint before fucking him. Not all the time. Once in a while.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I just thought it was fun while it lasted and it’s very rare to find someone that shared similar sexual styles. He has moved to Melbourne, Australia now and he just told me if ever I go visit, to look him up. I don’t know if I will.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? To my closest friends. They were cool with it. My friends are only concerned that I practice safe sex.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Unlike my other hook-ups, he was a gentleman. He didn’t just let me find my way out of the house. After fucking me, he would always walk me to my car to make sure I was safe and always wanted me to text him once I reached home.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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