What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 31
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 5
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Friend Wanted Me to Hookup w/ His Wife
How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 Months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My best friend’s Wife.
-She’s kinda shy but when opens up very “bubbly”
-My interactions with her alone were basically non-existent up to that point. No real conversations just between the two of us or anything.
-Amazingly Beautiful 9/10
-24 years old
-Jet black hair
-pale skin but not sickly looking pale
-A tiny girl but perfect butt and above average breast size.
I alway’s thought she was amazingly beautiful but never thought about hooking up with her or anything like that she is my best friend’s wife (I was the best man in their wedding).
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? A few weeks prior my buddy was at my apartment. He was talking about how great of a friend I was and everything we have been through together. (We met while in the Army, we’ve were in countless firefights together in Afghanistan, seen and pushed through horrible things together). He then jokingly said “Hey, I’d let you fuck my wife.” I took it as him joking around and brushed it off and we went back to watching the basketball game.
Then about a week later he was over again, we were watching another game. Out of nowhere he asked if I wanted to hook up with his wife while he was gone. He was gunna be out of the country for his job for about 3-4 weeks. He went on that they have been wanting to try some new kinky things, maybe swinging, and both were turned on with the thought of them with someone else. He then just told me to “We were talking about it and she mentioned you, text her sometime this week if your down and you guys can work out the details, don’t worry about it being weird or anything. She wants me to hook up with someone while I’m gone.” Then just went back to watching the basketball game like everything was normal.
My first initial thought was NO WAY. Things would be very weird. I was worried this might mess with our friendship.
Then I started thinking about it more (with the other head). Uh this girl is amazingly hot. I haven’t had a girlfriend for quite some time. A weird work schedule over the last year or so has basically put me out of the dating and socializing game so its been awhile since I’ve had sex…….. let alone with a girl like this.
So I decided I would do it. Next thing………what the hell to text her? I banged my head around thinking what to send her. Like I said before she comes off kinda shy and its not like I know her extremely well other than when I’m hanging out with my buddy and her. I finally just went with “Hey, I’m definitely down with getting together. Let me know if you had anything in mind.” and I sent it.
About 30 minutes later she responded. “How about we meet for dinner Thursday night and keep it at that. Then Friday you could come stay over here for the night.” We then worked out the details of dinner but I was still kinda up in the air about what to do the Friday “hook up night”. Just walk on in the door and take off my clothes? I was starting to feel extremely nervous.
Dinner went well. We had a bit of conversation but NOTHING about the next night. We drove separate, there was no kiss good night or anything like that. I still had tons of questions going through my head about the next night………
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Hook up Night:
I come over to their house about 8:00pm. I knock on the door, she comes to answer wearing a pink nighty kinda lingerie but not too over the top. Wow she looked amazing. Her breasts looked amazing ( I guess she never really wears much clothing to show them off normally). She takes me by the hand and walks me to the living room and we sit on the couch. The lights are dimmed and a few candles. I’m thinking “this is too good to be true”. Instead of being her kinda shy normal self she’s very much taking the lead (thank god because I didn’t know where to go. I didn’t know where to lead, I didn’t want to do something disrespectful and or anything like that.
We are sitting on the couch and she has a huge glass of red wine. She takes a sip and then puts it to my mouth. “Good isn’t it?” I’m not a huge wine guy and don’t remember the taste at all but “Uh ya its great”. She takes a few more sips and then gives me another and then sets it down on the table.
She then jumps right up and straddles me on the couch. She asks me “hows this look?” (meaning her nighty). Although she had to already know how I thought it looked because she had to feel how hard I was with her straddling me. She then grabbed my hands and placed them on her breasts. We then made out for a few minutes as I slipped my hands inside here nighty. I pulled down her top exposing her from the waist up. She then hopped off me and onto the ground between my legs, removing my pants. For awhile she stroked my penis with her hands and occasionally licked from bottom to top. Then went all out sucking up and down. I had to tell her to slow down a few times as to not end this too quickly HAHA. She then jumped up, straddled me again and rode on top of me for awhile, shoving my head into her breasts. I then realized we were not even using a condom. I had a few in my jacket pocket but I wasn’t worried about it at all at this point.
She was a lot more of a sexual person than I would have guessed before. She was very sensitive with me inside her. Shaking and moaning softly. After riding me for quite awhile I picked her up and layed her down on the floor. I brought her knees up high near her chest and I fucked her for a few minutes increasing the pace. Then it hit me…fuck where should I cum. I’m still kinda worried about doing something that she might take disrespectful so I’m mini starting to freak out but at the same time fucking loving this. Thankfully shortly after she tells me she wants me to come in her mouth. Hearing this immediately makes me start to come before I can even pull out. Most of it gets on the floor and then she gets her mouth on my penis as I sit/kinda falling back against the couch. She then straddles me again wrapping her arms around me just holding on and breathing heavy until she simmers down. Kisses the top of my head and then gets up and goes into the bathroom.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now?
Its then kinda weird the rest of the night. We spoon on the couch and fall asleep. She makes breakfast the next day and then I leave.
We hook up 2 more times while my buddy is away. Similar stories which I might mention on here later.
She was amazing, this experience was the best sexual experience of my life. I think it has kinda ruined me though trying to find a girlfriend. Its very much “well I can’t top that” haha. I’m not thinking this would go anywhere other than maybe a similar type hookup down the road and I wouldn’t want it to as I know she is still in love with my buddy and he is with her.
When my buddy got home things weren’t too weird like I thought they might be. He basically asked how was it and I told his “uh great”, he just replied ya shes amazing. Then things were normal.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Withdrawal
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, I was feeling lonely, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one out of respect of privacy for my friend and his wife. I figure if they want it out there they would talk about it.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? HER, she’s an amazingly beautiful girl. Any confusion about how to take the situation she removed by taking control at the beginning.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing really other than things being slightly weird for awhile but it didn’t last long.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I think it gave me confidence. I had confidence before (not and over gloating confidence) but knowing a beautiful and sexy woman like her thought of me when expanding on their “fantasies” boosted my confidence more.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Not sure if my buddy has anymore plans of being gone again anytime soon but I would be down with another similar encounter. I think they have expanding on their fantasies a bit possibly swinging with other couples or something similar. Not really sure what they have gotten into since our hookup I might be more into using a condom if it happened again since I think their partners have increased since then.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I don’t think it has chance much for me. In college I was involved in a bit of casual sex a few times but nothing really after college. All sexual encounters since college were with mid to long term girlfriends. In society I think its very much dependent on the persons and situation involved. I had a positive experience but I could see how it easily could result in different outcomes.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I like the idea behind it. For me it was a way to get this experience out there. It was an amazing experience that I felt I needed to tell someone BUT I did not want to tell anyone I actually know. More for their privacy.
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