What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 26
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? Grad Student
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 10-20
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 7 months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We had met last year and instantly connected. Just a few days from meeting each other, we slept together and became unofficial fuck-buddies. He (CW) would text me late at night in a drunken stupor every once in a while. We had a lot of fun but I started catching feelings that went unreciprocated so I decided to end things with him 2 months prior to this. I had started seeing someone else who was really sweet but it was casual/non-exclusive.
CW was around my height, toned body, mid-30’s, dark blonde hair, a hint of red in his beard. Sex was always so explosive with him, the best orgasms I’ve had have been with him. He was always rock hard and had a difficult time cumming which made sex for me even better.
On this particular night, he texted me asking me if I was seeing someone else and questioning me for it. He came off as jealous which I enjoyed because I thought he didn’t care at all that I had ended things with him 2 months ago. After about an hour of texting, he asked me if he could pick me up so we could talk. At this point, I still had feelings for him but knew nothing would come from it. We both want different things and are in different stages of life. He has a kid, is a divorcee, and has a drinking/drug problem which he attributed to spending 9 years in the military.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He picked me up and we drove to his house. He lives by himself just a few blocks away from me and I live with 2 other people. We got to his house and he had empty beer cans on his table along with the remnants of weed. It was at this point, I knew he wasn’t sober and we weren’t going to talk. We hadn’t seen each other in over 2 months so we just sat on his couch and watched some TV. I tried striking a conversation every once in a while but it wouldn’t go anywhere.
He sat closer to me and put his hand on my lower back and up my sweater, then he put his face close to mine and started kissing my neck. I stopped him, I wanted him to talk to me and tell me that he missed me, that he wanted us to start seeing each other again but he said what he always said “I can’t give you what you want.” I remember locking eyes with him and trying to figure out whether I should leave or stay and have amazing sex I was sure I’d regret the next morning.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We started kissing and he had a way with his hands. Strong, firm hands, he’d simply place them on my waist and squeeze me as if saying that he wanted every bit of me. I took off my sweater and had a thin tank top underneath. Then I started undressing him. I left him in his boxers; I dropped to my knees and started giving him head. I loved giving him head, his eyes would roll back and his mouth would be left open. Then he pulled my hair and stopped me. I grabbed his hand and led him to his bedroom. I pushed him on to the bed and started undressing myself. I kept my underwear and tank top on. I sat on top of him and lifted myself unto my knees, he got the hint and took off my underwear for me. We started fucking immediately, I loved riding him. He was rock hard just like I remembered. He stopped me in the middle of me riding him, lifted me off, threw me on his side and on my back and made his way down. He kissed and licked my lower stomach, lightly nibbling my inner thighs and teasing me so much I thought my pussy would explode from the tension. He then finally put his open mouth on me and started eating me out, licking me in the right spots with the right pressure. He fingered me until I almost came and then shoved his dick back in me. He fucked me so good until I came. Then he flipped me on my stomach and pulled my legs towards the edge of the bed and started again, grabbing my ass, spanking me, telling me how much he loved that ass. He would occasionally pull my ass and bend over, whispering in my ear as he pulled my hair and kept fucking me. I tried to throw back to meet his rhythm but I was so tired and felt so good as this point, I couldn’t. We finished off with me on top of him again. I sat on him and fucked him like he liked to be fucked. I rode him while he choked me and called me baby – my two favorite things.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We ended up falling asleep together on his bed, only to wake up in the morning and go for another round, but I’ll leave that story for another form. He drove me home the next day, gave me a hug and told me “Well, I guess I’ll see you around.”
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, I was feeling lonely, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my roommate about it and she was surprised. She knew I liked him and that we wanted different things. She knew I had ended things with him and that every once in a while I missed him. She figured we wouldn’t hookup again, especially now that I was seeing someone else.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively negative
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Very much
Why do you regret this hookup? Aside from the obvious orgasms, nothing good came out of it. I opened an old wound and had to start getting over him again. I somewhat cheated on a good guy who I knew wasn’t seeing someone else even though we weren’t exclusive
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Having sex with him one last time.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Having sex with him after it took me months to get over him.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Kind of. I know I shouldn’t go back to having sex with people that I know nothing can come off it, specially if I’m emotionally invested.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Despite the immediate regret, I no longer regret having seen him again, one last time. I think at that point, I wanted to do it, so I did it. Sure I was sad the following weeks, but I’m finally over him. At the end, it was an experience that I think I needed to have to not get involved with people that I shouldn’t be getting involved with.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? For me, casual sex has brought me confidence in my abilities and my body. I started having casual sex after a crappy long-term relationship that left me with body issues and self-esteem issues. Casual sex made me feel wanted, appreciated, beautiful. All my experience have brought me where I am today, happy and confident with my body and my skills in bed.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s wonderful, I love reading and plan to share more stories!
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