What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 25
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Georgia
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? N/A
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 4
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Hooking up with preggo best friends wife
How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Puerto Rican girl, sort of short but very cute. She’d wear tight clothes sometimes and I thought she looked good in them. I knew her only from being married to a friend of mine, and never until a few weeks before me and him discussed it had seen her as a potential fuck.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was out of a relationship and had been for a while, and I was feeling the urge to fuck pretty badly. I told him I’d pretty much accept anything at that point and he mentioned banging his wife. I laughed it off at first. But in future conversations he insisted that I take him up on it. He said he owed me for some trouble he caused before, so eventually I took him up on it. I didn’t want to seem too excited, but the week before I had been thinking about fucking her so much.
He wanted it to be a threesome, but I said I wanted to get acquainted with her physically before I involve myself that way. He said it’d be fine and then he began talking to her about it. She was pregnant so he decided to go with me being obsessed with pregnant women. He sent nudes of her and she eventually started talking to me personally. We’d talk and she almost acted like she was dating me instead of being married to him, talking about how she’d want to come out to the car on break and fuck me in the backseat of her car, or us be at their place and us start making out.
The day it was going to happen he said he’d go out to his job (he worked night shift) and said I could come over at that point and do whatever.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? When he left I was nervous as hell. It had been a while since I had sex and on top of that what was about to happen (me fucking, and him having prior knowledge it was going to go down, his wife) made me even more of a wreck. We watched a little tv and eventually walked off into the bedroom. She came back dressed a little skimpily and I took my shorts off. She started sucking my dick to get me a bit lubed up, and then she climbed on top of me and rode me for a bit.
She acted almost indifferent once we actually started having sex. I tried sucking on her tits but she seemed to not care. We switched positions and tried but I was too tired/physically exhausted from work the previous day to try that. I didn’t even realized I finished because of that. So I eventually just called it off and both of us went and showered. She seemed stand offish in the shower, so afterwards I piled on the couch and fell asleep. We hadn’t spoke since about it.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? I don’t know
Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Not much happened after. My buddy and I didn’t speak for a week or so, but then things resumed as normal. I was nervous about having left a good impression sexually, and I had hoped for another hookup.
My feelings are pretty much the same as before. She’s cute and I wouldn’t mind hooking up with her again, but their attitudes have changed.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, She was pregnant, so no possibility for that to be an issue.
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I feigned little enthusiasm at first, but I gave in and was excited.
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I’ve told my two best friends, my brother, my sister, and current girlfriend briefly about it. My best friends were shocked. Girlfriend didn’t seem to pay attention to it. My brother was in awe. I told my sister and she freaked out. She eventually didn’t care, but at first she was shocked as can be.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Having sex. Getting to be physically intimate with someone again. Feeling desired in some capacity.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Having had sex in what seemed a forced manner/time frame. Lack of intimacy in regards to that. I would have loved to have taken my time and physically experienced her more, and hopefully get a better reaction from her. (orgasm, etc)
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It has made me want to reach out more and maybe hook up more.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think that it’s out there if you look, or get extremely lucky. I’d like to see it be a less revolting ideal for some people. If you get on a dating site as a male, 9/10 women are extremely against casual hookups and they have no trouble putting that on their bio.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Hi.
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