What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 31
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Australia
What country and/or city do you live in? Melbourne
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Photograher
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 19
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? Three weeks ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We met on tinder, she was 26, pretty, fit but not skinny, cute stylish glasses and overall look that fit her profession and lifestyle as a trendy academic. We matched a day or two before and seemed to click. I hate texting on the app so tend to swap numbers pretty soon once I’m confident so I can text more inconspicuously and move things on at a more controlled pace.
She talked about how she was “bored” with all the guys on tinder just wanting sex and that it was meaningless and not stimulating enough for her intellectually and that she wasn’t looking to hookup with anyone.
I’m an extrovert who’s well-read and I deal with all kinds on a day to day basis. I’m told pretty intuitive so I had all the right things to say.
She was trying pretty hard to come across tough. She had the usual sarcastic tinder bent to her, the difference was in her intellect and quick wit. I dropped a few hints that I was keen to hookup with her since I would only have that night to meet anyone for nearly two weeks. Texting had gotten progressively more flirty and fun so we swapped a few pics (nothing suggestive or revealing just enough to create the illusion of familiarity) it wasn’t long after that the invitation came through.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Despite her fervent disclaimer that she wasn’t on tinder for hookups, she invited me over to her apartment to “enjoy the view from her terrace since it looked so pretty”. Twenty minutes later I was knocking on her door.
I would say I instigated it but I made sure the decision came from her through some prompting.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? When I arrived we chatted for a bit had a drink and actually had a good laugh. Things moved along pretty quick once we had a seat on the couch. I’m big on intimacy so subtle touching and closeness comes pretty confidently and easily. The back of my fingers against her thigh, the soft rub of a thumb on her forearm as she giggles away. Her tough sarcastic exterior had vanished and I interrupted her giggling with a soft kiss as I slipped my fingers into her long mousey blond hair. I cradled her face in my hands and kissed her more deeply and she became still for just a second before she moved her hand to my chest. I turned her chin to kiss her neck and she let out a gasp. We kissed and explored a bit for the next fifteen or twenty minutes before she finally led me by the hand to her room. I peeled off my top and wrapped my arms around her pulling her in tight and kissed her again.
She was clearly nervous about taking her clothes off so I turned her around and slipped the shoulder off of her top gently playfully biting where it had covered her and she giggled again. I told her sex should be fun and held her for a minute telling her she had nothing to worry about and that if she wasn’t up to that was fine. Which was true: I wasn’t about to make anyone do anything.
I was well and truly into her now and already very hard. She could no doubt feel it through my jeans as I was pressed against her. She pulled the rest of her top off and slipped out of her bra, I immediately took her breast in my mouth and teased her with my tounge. She let out a wimper and guided me to lay back on the bed. She undid my jeans and slipped them off before moving straight to performing oral sex on me. This is where things turned a little pear shaped.
For all her enthusiasm she clearly didn’t know what she was doing. I was wincing every few seconds from her teeth grazing my head. At one point she noticed and apologized saying she would keep them out of the way but nothing changed in her approach so I tried to move things on by playfully lifting her into bed. Her breasts where fantastic, I went back to teasing her nipples with my mouth while I slipped my fingers inside her for a bit of an explore. She seemed to thoroughly enjoy this as she started grinding against my hand so hard I decided to put a condom on and cut out the middle man.
I’m only average when it comes to length, more impressive when it comes to girth but when I entered her, her eyes rolled into her head and she moaned… evidently it had been a while.
We mixed it up as far as positions but her fervent desire to try and grind against me interrupted my rhythm again and again. Eventually I flipped her on her stomach again and entered her from behind letting my weight rest on her so I could finish and we just chilled for an hour or so chatting and having a laugh.
It was well past midnight by this point, we tried for round two but she wouldn’t stop clumsily grinding again so I just said I wasn’t up for it.
We had a bit more of a cuddle and a pash and I left for home.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? She has attempted to organise more hookups with me but I have politely declined each time.
Lovely young lady 🙂
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, To cheer myself up
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I don’t kiss and tell, it’s not really anyone else’s business when I hookup with someone
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? She was actually really funny and good to have a laugh with.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Her lack of experience meant I needed to take charge so it wasn’t really a back and forth kind of interaction.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not really
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It’s changed the way I think about a lot of things in my life and what people’s motivations are or could potentially be. I’d say I’ve learnt more about people in general from interacting in an intimate manner than I have from all the polite small talk I’ve ever had to endure.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Nice to get this stuff written down I guess.
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