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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 26
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Cape Cod, MA
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Retail Associate
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 15
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
I Call Him Saturday
How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was 7 years my senior, a bit of a metal head that wore a leather jacket and built(goes to the gym 4-5 days a week). He had a short hair cut and a thick maintained beard. When I first met him Im pretty sure he had a couple of drinks perhaps to ease nervousness or because he simply likes to drink. I had met him through Tinder and we had a short exchange of conversation enough that I wanted to meet him in person and also, to be fair, I was looking to hook up. He seemed nice enough but no real exciting conversation. We met at his house, I picked him up since he didnt have a vehicle and went to the bar. He was a little engaged and also a bit distant. I wasnt sure how to gauge the encounter. At the end of the night I dropped him off and declined to go inside but told him I’d keep in contact.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? So still not sure what exactly led me to get in contact with him, probably for my need to get sex, but I messaged him and met up up at his house. I brought a jug of Sangria with me for some liquid courage as this was a first time meeting a relative stranger like this. We laid down on his bed and watched some shows on Netflix for a while and I ingested a fair amount of Sangria. When I finally passed the glass over saying I was done and didnt want any more to drink is when he went in to kiss me. Most awkward kiss I’ve ever dealt with, its like he doesnt know how to kiss but I went with it.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After a period of kissing there was some heavy petting and eventually the clothes started coming off. He went down on me and it was amazing since it had been well over 3 years since another man had done so with enjoyment(prior bf didnt like doing it). After that I had sucked his dick and he got out a condom,(but put it in before putting on the condom which was frustrating and led me to get STI testing after) and we had sex. It was clear to me it had been a while because he needed to pause several times to cool off before continuing. I didnt mind, it was a first time between the two of us and from what I’ve experienced its normal for guys to get overly excited from a new encounter. Otherwise he was pretty good, it was just missionary
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the initial hook up I stayed the night since I knew I couldnt drive due to alcohol consumption. In the morning when I had to leave I felt pretty good about the encounter and a boost of self confidence since he was built and I used to be pretty heavy but have lost a fair amount of weight. I had hoped to see him again, and the first week I saw him 2 other times but for most of the other hookups I continued to have with him it took a similar course in regards to sex with small deviations and a lot less, or no, alcohol. I developed a short crush on him but really we are two opposite personalities that work just well enough for weekly hookups. I call him Saturday for a reason.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) IUD (Intrauterine device)
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, To feel more desirable
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My best friend. She knew where I was and I messaged her semi regularly that first night so she was aware that everything was fine. Only thing she was aggrivated with me about was the fact that the condom wasnt on before I did anything with him due to potential STI.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? That it has been no strings attached. I dont have to check in on him at all.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The kissing.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? This hookup has made casual sex more of an option for me. I didnt get super attached to him and I know I dont have to fear getting attached to everyone I end up sleeping with. Since hooking up with him I branched out and hooked up with 6 other people since in a short 5 month period. I still see him. Im open to the idea of open relationships now where as I wasnt in the past.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I would like there to be more open discussion and positive view on casual sex. These experiences I’ve had since meeting Saturday and the other people I’ve seen in tandem have done nothing more but give me more power to myself. I’ve always been very self conscious and worried about what other people think but now I am pretty open and free to talk about these subjects and I feel more whole as a person.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It gives an open forum for people to tell their story where they might not otherwise be able to without judgement.
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