What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 45
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? United Kingdom
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Unemployed
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Straight
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 10 or so
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? Zero
How long ago did this hookup happen? A few weeks ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Phone sex buddy
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I don’t know what he looks like and we just spoke a little on the phone. We met on a chat website and I had no feeling for him before the hookup.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It began on a chat website and our causal chatting led to it. Some planning involved and I instigated it through initiated the chat.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We both mastturbated while he was watching porn in the background. I felt comfortable during it and he behaved patiently. He was encouraging me to orgasm. It ended with us hanging up the phone and I deleted him from Skype.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I hoped to talk again and I felt happy. I was hoping it would lead to a face to face meeting. But I feel sad about him now
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, To cheer myself up, It was easy/convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A friend. Thought I was crazy
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively negative
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? I wanted a face-to-face hookup.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Orgasming at the same time as another person or close in timing
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Wanting more of the person
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It’s not good for me but it’s very exciting
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I would like to change the way men view women who like causal sex as much as they do yet they let you know you will never be, “ the one “ slut shaming.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Cool
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